Watching my boyfriend's girls!! (BF, babysitting, ideas, baby)
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So you're going to eat there but not do any dishes?
Why starve the animals?
So I take it you didnt read the post correctly
I said I will clean up the mess I made while cooking?
The girls are 13 and 17 the animal belong to them
they are old enough to feed their own animals.
I think it's a little unreasonable to expect the girls to do your dishes. My mother always did the dishes. She had a system, and a specific way she liked them done and preferred to do them herself.
I just think this whole post comes off as juvenile and harsh. Are you trying to be an "evil stepmother"?
ok just like I told Cindy I will tell you, you didn't read the post correctly
I said I will clean my mess I made cooking
No where in my post did I say I will make the girls clean my dishes.
I think your lack of reading correctly is immature,
If your mother always did the dishes who cares,
if you didnt learn how to clean up after yourself who cares
So I take it you didnt read the post correctly
I said I will clean up the mess I made while cooking?
The girls are 13 and 17 the animal belong to them
they are old enough to feed their own animals.
Um, I did read your post. You said:
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I wont wash dishes or clean house,
So after meals, are you going to have the kids sort the dishes into stacks they clean while you only clean your own? What about shared meals/dishes?
I think it is odd, too. You should be helping not hindering. You can't pick the girls up because "gas is expensive". God forbid you help the family out.
Might cost you a whole $6.00 to pick them up?
I think the "dealing with mom rules" are odd, but the rest are fine....
Very good idea..and thats what I did...these are the rules dad has for them too, the only thing I added was I'm not going to take them or pick them up from moms house, mom has a car. Other than that no rules change when dads gone,
I dont get is some posters are acting like the girls are 3 and 7 when in fact they are 13 and 17.
So after meals, are you going to have the kids sort the dishes into stacks they clean while you only clean your own? What about shared meals/dishes?
They have a dish washer, they are capable of putting them in the dishwasher and if I can make dinner for them than they can put the dishes we ate on into the dishwasher
So you never washed dinner dishes when you were at home?
Probably not??
Moderator cut: Enough with the personal attacks.
Last edited by JustJulia; 03-04-2011 at 01:11 PM..
On the dishes thing: when we were living at home, my sister and I were responsible for the *family* dishes. Not just our own. We'd take turns - some nights she'd wash and I'd dry/put away, some nights I'd wash and she'd put away. We didn't have a dishwasher til we were both adults. Until then, she and I -were- the dishwasher. We weren't allowed to watch TV til the dishes were done. All of them. The pots, pans, mom's dishes, dad's dishes, the serving platters, etc. etc. etc. Mom cooked, we cleaned. That was the deal. Live with it, or don't eat.
So I think that rule is perfectly reasonable.
As for the mom picking the kids up and bringing them home, that also sounds reasonable. If the mom wants to see her kids, she knows where the house is. And if the mom wants her kids to return to the home they are assigned to live in, then she knows where the house is. The OP isn't a chauffeur service for her boyfriend's ex-wife's children. The fact that the 17-year-old has access to a car and is allowed to drive it punctuates that very clearly.
The OP is *not* the kids' mom. It sounds like she doesn't even live in this home, that she is doing a *favor* for her boyfriend, and their kids, by "being" the adult in the house. She is not asking to get paid for this, she isn't a Nanny, the kids don't require constant supervision like younger kids do. Mostly they just need someone to "be there."
As for the pets, damned straight she shouldn't have to feed them. However, if the kids don't feed them, she should do it anyway, and make sure the dad knows that the kids neglected their responsibilities to their pets while he was away.
I think it is odd, too. You should be helping not hindering. You can't pick the girls up because "gas is expensive". God forbid you help the family out.
Might cost you a whole $6.00 to pick them up?
I think the "dealing with mom rules" are odd, but the rest are fine....
yes and thats how much it will cost mom to pick them up? $6 and if read I said mom has her own car?
I pay my own bills, I do work an hour away so yes gas is scarce??
Im not dealing with mom and I find it alarming how the girls want to be with me instead of mom while dad is away.
On the dishes thing: when we were living at home, my sister and I were responsible for the *family* dishes. Not just our own. We'd take turns - some nights she'd wash and I'd dry/put away, some nights I'd wash and she'd put away. We didn't have a dishwasher til we were both adults. Until then, she and I -were- the dishwasher. We weren't allowed to watch TV til the dishes were done. All of them. The pots, pans, mom's dishes, dad's dishes, the serving platters, etc. etc. etc. Mom cooked, we cleaned. That was the deal. Live with it, or don't eat.
So I think that rule is perfectly reasonable.
As for the mom picking the kids up and bringing them home, that also sounds reasonable. If the mom wants to see her kids, she knows where the house is. And if the mom wants her kids to return to the home they are assigned to live in, then she knows where the house is. The OP isn't a chauffeur service for her boyfriend's ex-wife's children. The fact that the 17-year-old has access to a car and is allowed to drive it punctuates that very clearly.
The OP is *not* the kids' mom. It sounds like she doesn't even live in this home, that she is doing a *favor* for her boyfriend, and their kids, by "being" the adult in the house. She is not asking to get paid for this, she isn't a Nanny, the kids don't require constant supervision like younger kids do. Mostly they just need someone to "be there."
As for the pets, damned straight she shouldn't have to feed them. However, if the kids don't feed them, she should do it anyway, and make sure the dad knows that the kids neglected their responsibilities to their pets while he was away.
Thank you..you are the only one who read the post correctly, they do want someone here for them, and yes it is a favor to my boyfriend and his daughters..I really do like the girls, ..I enjoy cooking so he knows I will cook for them..I remember my mom cooking and making a big mess when she did and she would make us clean it up, I hate that, so I do clean while I cook. I dont want the oldest one to be stranded somewhere because she ran out of gas, or the youngest one walking home by herself if she goes visits her friend, I'd rather pick her up so I know she is safe.
Most posters think the girls are 3 and 7 and failed to read the post correctly
Thank you for reading it correctly
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