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He didn`t realize that the entire school (7th and 8th) was going to be at this dance. He was a little nervous anyway, but has never really had an issue with socializing before, until my surprise last night, he calls me asking if I can come and get him.
He wasn`t there 10 min.
My DH said it was because he is starting to notice girls now, and he wasn`t expecting the higher grades to be there.
He said he felt sick at his stomach, and was so nervous that he was having a hard time breathing.
I`m wondering if it is because this is a whole new school from elementry, alot bigger, and the fact that this dance was alot diffrent from the others he has been to in the past, from the small elementry school.
It just surprised me that he didn`t even give it a chance, and he has always been a social kid.
Oh, middle school...such a tough time.
Next time try suggesting that he go with a group of kids. Offer to be the one who picks up and drives a few of them. That way he will feel comfortable with his buds and won't be worried about all the girls.
Another thing that may help is if you arrange some safe social events with boys and girls. We used to have a once a year boy/girl party at our house. We emptied out the garage, decorated and had our own dance. We served pizza and soda and water and plenty of lighting. It really helped our preteens and early teens feel more comfortable around their peers. They also all learned to dance in a place where they weren't embarrassed.
Oh, middle school...such a tough time.
Next time try suggesting that he go with a group of kids. Offer to be the one who picks up and drives a few of them. That way he will feel comfortable with his buds and won't be worried about all the girls.
Another thing that may help is if you arrange some safe social events with boys and girls. We used to have a once a year boy/girl party at our house. We emptied out the garage, decorated and had our own dance. We served pizza and soda and water and plenty of lighting. It really helped our preteens and early teens feel more comfortable around their peers. They also all learned to dance in a place where they weren't embarrassed.
Those are good suggestions.
Beyond that--hugs--and encouragement. If you want to dance--just ask until you get a yes and boogie on.
He didn`t realize that the entire school (7th and 8th) was going to be at this dance. He was a little nervous anyway, but has never really had an issue with socializing before, until my surprise last night, he calls me asking if I can come and get him.
He wasn`t there 10 min.
My DH said it was because he is starting to notice girls now, and he wasn`t expecting the higher grades to be there.
He said he felt sick at his stomach, and was so nervous that he was having a hard time breathing.
I`m wondering if it is because this is a whole new school from elementry, alot bigger, and the fact that this dance was alot diffrent from the others he has been to in the past, from the small elementry school.
It just surprised me that he didn`t even give it a chance, and he has always been a social kid.
Maybe next time you could host a pre dance party at your house and transport the kids to the dance. That way they are already having fun at your house and the dance is the next step in a fun evening. Plus-they arrive with a built in group.
I can't agree. Better to be participating in life in some way than texting, tweeting, etc.
lol--Fun times on the dance floor for many decades.
My 6th grade dd doesn't attend dances (isn't interested & has never been offered at any of the 3 schools attended.) Nor does she text or tweet! She plays board games, reads, enjoys dolls, her pets, jump rope, knits, jigsaw puzzles, bike riding, arts & crafts, playing with friends (hide 'n seek, tag, etc.) writes letters to friends & family, piano lessons, ballet classes, bike riding, a little bit of T.V. (cooking shows mostly) & many, many family activities. There really are more choices. Its not just a choice between 6th grade dances or text/tweeting. In any event, its your choice. If you want to send your child to a dance, go for it. I was merely offering my opinion to the OP. Have a good day.
My 6th grade dd doesn't attend dances (isn't interested & has never been offered at any of the 3 schools attended.) Nor does she text or tweet! She plays board games, reads, enjoys dolls, her pets, jump rope, knits, jigsaw puzzles, bike riding, arts & crafts, playing with friends (hide 'n seek, tag, etc.) writes letters to friends & family, piano lessons, ballet classes, bike riding, a little bit of T.V. (cooking shows mostly) & many, many family activities. There really are more choices. Its not just a choice between 6th grade dances or text/tweeting. In any event, its your choice. If you want to send your child to a dance, go for it. I was merely offering my opinion to the OP. Have a good day.
That's fine. Sounds very similar to what I did as a child---a thousand or so years ago. We also had a few dances and I really enjoyed them--wish I had done more of that. just me.
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. It really helped our preteens and early teens feel more comfortable around their peers. They also all learned to dance in a place where they weren't embarrassed.
