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People who volunteer others for an event without first consulting the person they are volunteering. Someone recently volunteered me to make deviled eggs for a luncheon event expecting over a hundred people. I left it up to my friend-walking-on-very-thin-ice that I would do nothing of the sort and he would have to pass that on himself.
I was a board member for a local non-profit group a few years back. It so happened that on the exact same date the group held their annual election for board members and officers of the board, I was scheduled for surgery for what both my surgeon and I thought could quite possibly be advanced ovarian cancer. Since I was obviously not going to be in any condition to attend the actual election, I had told the board president ahead of time that I was willing to continue to serve as a board member, but only if my health permitted and if the rest of the group wished me to do so.
Surgery went well, the results were astonishingly all benign, and I began the process of recovery, grateful for what felt like a new lease on life. I got home from the hospital a few days later, and once I felt up to sitting up for a while, logged in to my email to see what had been happening. Lo and behold, there was an email from the president of the board of this organization. It read "congratulations, we elected you Secretary, hope you're feeling better by now."
Yes, I served as secretary, but at the end of the year I made it quite clear to the board president that I was no longer willing to serve the group in any capacity. I still support what they do, but there simply aren't enough hours in my life to work for an all-volunteer group that treats its members with such an appalling lack of simple common courtesy.
Oh Wow. Sounds like something my husband's sister would do to me (when we lived in Arizona). I would be like...WHAT!?! Or how about when your kids invite people for lunch or dinner...and you have NO idea company is on the way over. Talking about Awkward!
Depending on the occasion, I dont mind being volunteered for something. Most of the time Im designated driver when going out with friends if theres going to be any drinking involved, but once in awhile it would be nice to enjoy a bloody mary or a strawberry daquiri too. Not that I mind all that much, better to be designated than in jail, eh?
I left it up to my friend-walking-on-very-thin-ice that I would do nothing of the sort and he would have to pass that on himself.
Kudos to you for standing your ground. I know people who would have meekly agreed to make the eggs, then turn around and ***** about it to anyone they can for the next year.
EDIT: What is this, kindergarten? No "b" word allowed? How dumb.
My mother always did this to me-she would invite loads of people to her house and then tell me I'm doing the cooking. Could that be why I moved 1500 miles west?
Location: Moved to town. Miss 'my' woods and critters.
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I agree. Totally disrespectful. While I was attending a Realtor convention one year, I called home to find out how everything was going only to be informed of my nomination as President of a chapter of an organization that had been newly formed in our community. It was an honour and I decided to accept, but never would again. I do find that when you miss meetings you do wind up being 'chosen' to take on tasks that normally you would never volunteer for.
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