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I hear you Alice! We have family members that do that to us. Some of it just amazes me.... My dh's sister and her husband once brought her van to our house for my dh to fix, which is really no big deal, but her comment when she brought it over was "He (husband) doesn't like to work on cars"! And my dh does??? Her dh painted the exterior of their house with a sprayer that year, and I kept telling my dh when we get ready to paint our house, we should ask that they do it for us, "because we don't like to paint"!!
Another one that happens all the time is where they decide that everyone is going to pitch in on a gift for their mom, which is fine, but we usually find out about it after the fact - - - "Oh we bought a (whatever) for mom, and thought we would all pitch in. Your part is $50.00" - Grrrr!!!
Alice that was just rude that someone did that to you. When my MotherinLaw was alive she made sure she planned every single day off my husband had so she could "utilize" him..would always volunteer all of us for everything................drove us nuts. It didn't matter if it was convenient for anyone as long as she got her way.
I had a "friend" who thought the because I had a three bedroom house, I should take in needy people. She actually told someone they would be able to stay at my house prior to asking me. When I told her, "no" she told me I had a cold heart.
I had a "friend" who thought the because I had a three bedroom house, I should take in needy people. She actually told someone they would be able to stay at my house prior to asking me. When I told her, "no" she told me I had a cold heart.
I been there and done that. Had space and took in homeless people. I made that mistake twice and was taken advantage of both times. They expected me to cater to them, wash their clothes, let them sit and do nothing all day and eat everything in the house. I had thought they needed a phone and address to get a job. I guess I was their sucker for the month.
ooo that one is a biggie. just because you can do something or have done it before some people expect you to do it no matter what.
My team at work has a small at work lunch event every year around the holidays. A pot luck of sorts. because no one else will step up to the plate and do it they all look at me. I said I will print up the sign up sheet but that would be all I will do, I will not organize it. Now small groups of the team are coming to me asking me if we should have it catered/order pizza/make it a smaller event/make it a larger event/ should they bring such-n-such item, etc. I could just scream! All this hit me today. My thought is " ok if you want me to organize it then I will be MY WAY or the Highway with you all!"
So I can say yes it is a HORRID thing to say "oh she/he will do that" even if you know they will accept it is always more poliet to ask them then to tell them you volunteered them. total lack of respect for not only the person but the event at hand.
I been there and done that. Had space and took in homeless people. I made that mistake twice and was taken advantage of both times. They expected me to cater to them, wash their clothes, let them sit and do nothing all day and eat everything in the house. I had thought they needed a phone and address to get a job. I guess I was their sucker for the month.
That is sort of how I feel about my kids.
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! We have family members that do that to us. Some of it just amazes me.... My dh's sister and her husband once brought her van to our house for my dh to fix, which is really no big deal, but her comment when she brought it over was "He (husband) doesn't like to work on cars"
! And my dh does
??? Her dh painted the exterior of their house with a sprayer that year, and I kept telling my dh when we get ready to paint our house, we should ask that they do it for us, "because we don't like to paint"
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