Pressure to have children by the parents / inlaws

[purehuman]

chance2jump...I don't think there's anything much you can do about it....we heard it too..from the parents.....could pretty well count on it.....we just let it slide...we were together for 6 years before we finally made their dreams come true....oh oh...old thread...oh well...sometimes a ressurection is good!!

[CSD610]

Originally Posted by chance2jump

Just curious who has dealt with this and how you reacted??

My father is pretty laid back about it, so no worries there. BUT.. my inlaws, ESPECIALLY my MIL, is pushing!!! She isn't outright saying "when do I get grandkids" - she is more at the hinting stage with comments like "you know, if you had kids, you wouldn't have to worry about a babysitter" or "your uncle mark really likes his grandbaby *big sigh*"

We're no where near ready for children.. we've been together for 4.5 yrs, married a little over 2, have had some major ups and downs, are still getting settled financially, and quite frankly I'm too selfish with my own hobbies / time / freedom to bring a little one into the picture. No worries, preventative measures are also in place! But, every get together or family functions... sure enough, she's right back at 'dropping' hints.

Soooo ... who here has dealt with this.. and how'd you deal?

Tell her it is between you and your husband when you decide to have children and no one else's opinion matters.

[Ulysses61]

Why put up with this? I literally would tell any MIL who said that to go straight to hell. It's your body, NOT hers. Tell her to mind her own business and tell her that her intrusion into your private life is unwarranted and unacceptable.