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I don't know why you won't just say what happened. It's not illegal to tell others about something you heard. And I'm sure there are ways to describe it that won't violate the TOS here.
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So basically the eccentric man (crazy douche canoe) told a man he will burn and hang him? If so, I doubt there's much one can do, but simply ignore mentally unstable people like that. Unless of course, a physical altercation occurred.
If there was a threat of violence or murder then calling the non emergency number and talking to a police officer seems prudent, citing date,time, who,what and where,as well as any witnesses.
I agree. Even if the police do not call the man in to speak with them, at least it will be on the record.
Look at it this way. What if all of you do nothing and the man follows through on his threat and actually hurts or kills the person that he threatened? Frankly, I would not want to take that risk.
I was thinking about all of the people who completely ignore the situation when a woman or child is abused. They say things like "Boys will be boys" or "He/she was provoked" or "He was just joking and did not mean to (give her a black eye, break her arm, cause bruises, etc.). And, then they pretend to be absolutely shocked or horrified when that woman or child is abused again or even killed by the same abuser.
Frankly, by your acquaintances saying that the man was "eccentric" it seemed like they were giving him an "out" for his inappropriate, possibly criminal behavior.
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The very eccentric man, without any provocation, said one of the worst things possible that also threatened violence (actually killing). The victim sat stunned momentarily, then the comment maker got up and left. This comment was so bad I would probably get in trouble for repeating it here. Over the course of the next thirty minutes, it was obvious the racist threat began to sink in its intended target and he was more visibly agitated each time he purposely turned the conversation back to the incident.
I'm sure you all were stunned by it, but if the person targeted had to "purposely turn the conversation back to the incident" – what, if anything, did the rest of you say subsequently? Of course, he got "more visibly agitated" – especially if the rest of you essentially dismissed it.
I'm sure you all were stunned by it, but if the person targeted had to "purposely turn the conversation back to the incident" – what, if anything, did the rest of you say subsequently? Of course, he got "more visibly agitated" – especially if the rest of you essentially dismissed it.
Curious as to why no one spoke up against this racist remark? Why did everyone just sit by and let it happen? Especially did if it as extreme as you say.
I would offer the victim your support in whatever they choose to do to address the matter, and then distance yourself from the perpetrator. Eccentric does not excuse violent racism. Ignore them and do not engage with them if you ever find yourself in one of those "casual" situations.
I don't know why you won't just say what happened. It's not illegal to tell others about something you heard. And I'm sure there are ways to describe it that won't violate the TOS here.
This exactly. I am having a hard time putting this in context. OP just spit it out!
I can tell this much though - it seems that everyone else in this rather large group just sat there, and eventually the perpetrator (aka "the eccentric" though I like the term douche canoe myself) meandered off. What the heck is wrong with the rest of you, to sit there and just allow such a horrific remark to hang in the air like that? Because surely it was horrific, right? I mean, it sounds like it.
I would do several things - first of all, I'd tell the person it was directed at that I am so sorry for not speaking up right then and there. Then I'd tell that person that I would testify if he or she wanted to make some sort of complaint or report to the police. Then I would make it my mission in life to pointedly stand up and LEAVE if the douche canoe ever showed up again - but not before looking him dead in the eye and saying, "I should have done this the last time I saw you, but I'll try to make up for it by doing it now. I think you're a racist, and I'm not going to share air with you." Or something like that. You get my drift.
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