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What's the big deal? He's an old man, leave him be. Just park in his spots and get on with your life.
OTOH, he's "only" 80. The OP could be putting up with this for another 15 years. Why should s/he do that? The guy's just a jerk; the OP's assigned spot happens to be conveniently in front of the 80-year-old's home, so that's the spot he wants to use, and use it, he does. Maybe he and the OP could agree to switch parking spaces? And have that written up and signed, like a contract? Whose home is the 80-year-old's assigned spot in front of, I wonder.
You can really offend him and say “I get it, when my uncle got older the old dementia started kicking in and eventually he even forgot how to drive; I’ll keep an eye out for some brain exercises and send them your way. But for now please move your car.”
Then go on-line and order pamphlets from all different memory care places in his name. His mailbox will be teaming with brochures.
You’ll feel alot better and he’ll get the message.
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Originally Posted by twowilldo
^^^ Excellent!
There's been plenty of suggestions in this thread that I find to be in poor taste, but this is just downright cruel.
He’s a nasty, bullying curmudgeon. He doesn’t get a free pass to be a jerk just because he’s 80. Don’t play games with him or insult him. Just have his car towed—no warning. You’ve asked him to move his car multiple times, so that’s sufficient warning. It will be a painfully expensive way to get the message across and he’ll never park there again.
"The older we get, the more like ourselves we become." A geriatric physician I worked with told me this. This 80 year old isn't doing this because he is old but because he has always taken advantage of others for his own benefit. Old men don't just suddenly start calling someone a b---- if they don't get their way; it's rather something they've done for years.
You'll have to either let him use your spot, or take stronger action with the HOA. He's not going to follow the rules unless the alternative causes him some pain.
I had a similar situation with a condo neighbor sunbathing on our lawn when we moved in because he had an agreement with the previous owner. It was akin to territorial peeing. Put your foot down now or he will walk all over you as long as you are neighbors.
We just moved into a little villa that we love but our elderly neighbor keeps parking in our assigned spot. Each resident is assigned 2 spots and overflow parking in close lot. The first time he parked in our spot while were in the parking lot. My husband later asked him nicely for his spot back. He moved and I thought we had the issue resolved.
Today, he parked in husband's spot and left his two spots vacant. I went over there and asked him if knew they were our spots and he said yes. I told him that we need those spots available for us at all times. He said that he was used to parking there because the last owner was never home (vacation property) He said it was hard to break habits. I said yep, but we need our spots. The whole time we had been there, he had been testing us. He takes other peoples spots too, but nobody ever says anything to him. He said that he would take care of it and then I heard him mutter, "Be a good neighbor, b*tch". I couldn't believe he was so rude! When he finally moved, I parked my car in both spots!!
What should I do if this happens again? I'm not out to make enemies here, but I paid for those spots.
Once, I heard the bolded, I think I would have went off on him and replied "No, you be a good neighbor ahole and stop parking in our parking spots"...and maybe scare him a little.
So, if he asked, you'd let him park in your spot? If so, then just let it go.
ETA: OP, show some compassion. He's an old man. A grumpy old man, but still...
Calling someone a beach isn't grumpy, imo.
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