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Thank u, she did tell me she is pregnant and she no longer wants me to think the world revolve around me. I gave her a gucci diaper bag and she told me that she was taking it but that i shouldnt be buying her friendship, But i think it goes beyond that.When i found out she was pregnant i bought her a $350 edible arrangement for her and her husband. And i also gave her husband a "new dad" gift . She talked to me the whole day that day as always but we are back to the cold shoulder. She made me realize that she doesnt want my friendship, but i do feel sorry for her bcus she just pushed a wonderful friend out of her life. I still feel very hurt bcus i was always there when she needed me and when i needed her to listen and just give me a hug she told me no... I really do wish her the best bcus even thou she is a pretty<bad> friend, shes a great person. Thanks for your post!
You cannot buy friends, which is what you are trying to do. So stop already.
Find other people to be friends with.
It sounds like, from your last sentences, that you've finally realized that she isn't a good friend to you.
Last edited by Miss Blue; 07-06-2016 at 06:15 AM..
Thank u, she did tell me she is pregnant and she no longer wants me to think the world revolve around me. I gave her a gucci diaper bag and she told me that she was taking it but that i shouldnt be buying her friendship, But i think it goes beyond that.When i found out she was pregnant i bought her a $350 edible arrangement for her and her husband. And i also gave her husband a "new dad" gift . She talked to me the whole day that day as always but we are back to the cold shoulder. She made me realize that she doesnt want my friendship, but i do feel sorry for her bcus she just pushed a wonderful friend out of her life. I still feel very hurt bcus i was always there when she needed me and when i needed her to listen and just give me a hug she told me no... I really do wish her the best bcus even thou she is a pretty <snip>bad friend, shes a great person. Thanks for your post!
I'm not going to lie --- this would creep me out.
You are coming on WAY too strong. You are not being a good friend either.
I have never spent this much money on a gift for my husband! $350 edible arrangement for finding out someone is pregnant? What the??? That is more than what my husband gets in gifts for his birthday and Christmas combined.
You are coming on WAY too strong. You are not being a good friend either.
I have never spent this much money on a gift for my husband! $350 edible arrangement for finding out someone is pregnant? What the??? That is more than what my husband gets in gifts for his birthday and Christmas combined.
I agree! I had someone who wasn't really a good friend who gave me gifts she couldn't afford . I felt more like she was trying to manipulate me and I pulled away even more. Op, try to accept that your friendship is over and go on with your life. She has a family now and her priorities has changed.
I really do wish her the best bcus even thou she is a pretty <snip>bad friend, shes a great person.
I can't buy the idea that someone can be a bad friend, but a great person. Take off your rose-colored glasses.
She has her relationship with her husband and has made it clear you are not her best friend. I doubt she would consider you much of a friend at all. Time to cut bait and focus on other people.
I would worry that you are showing signs of being co-dependent. Although I do not necessarily agree that a therapist is right in many situations, I believe it may be a reasonable option for you here.
This woman doesn't deserve to have you as a friend; she's got no qualms about accepting your expensive gifts, though.
Find more respectful and appreciative people, and demote this woman to being a work acquaintance.
Yes this is a one sided friendship. She show you no appreciation when you give her gifts and buy her lunch. She say negative words to you when you go to her for support during tough times. She is not a good friend. You need to cut her loose and move on. You need to tell her that you won't be available to be there for her when she go through tough times. It called "tough love". You can find other friends who will treat you a lot better. She will realize later on in how she treated you bad and then it will be too late. You had move on. She got her husband and a baby on a way now so let her focus on that. Let her husband buy her lunch. You shouldn't be her babysitter for the baby when she need a break. As for the work relationship, please keep it on a professional level. Back off the friendship and give her that space. The true meaning "absence and distance can make a heart grow more fonder". She will get a wakeup call through absence and distance.
Back when was in my early or mid 20s, I was having a lot of problems. Work was not going well, my bf at the time was a jerk but I was too afraid to break up with him, and in general my life was crap. And I would complain to everyone about it (family and friends I mean). And they would all try giving me advice about how to handle certain things but I didn't take any of their advice and just kept complaining.
Sooner or later, one by one, they all got tired of my complaining because I wasn't doing anything to improve my situation. I just sat there complaining. It wasn't until one of my friends finally snapped me out of it by literally screaming to my face that everyone was sick of hearing it because I was doing nothing about it and until I made some changes, I should just shut the F up and stop complaining to everyone. At that point I realized that I was the problem because I was not actively trying to improve my life.
So I have a very strong suspicion that this friend of yours is really tired of you going on and on and on about the same stuff day in and day out since you won't make any moves towards improving your situation. You're the only one who can change the course of your life. So are you going to keep doing the same thing that keeps making you miserable? Or are you going to move a chess piece and make your next move? The choice is yours.
BEST POST EVER!!! I have a feeling the OP is a constant complainer and whiner who tells her friends all about her problems but never takes their advice. After a while you just get fed up with it.
However for the OP's friend to tell her "you don't have the balls to commit suicide" tells you everything you need to know about this friendship.
OP - seek professional help if you are thinking about ending your life. Don't make a threat just to get attention because that hurts people who are seriously considering suicide.
Thank u, she did tell me she is pregnant and she no longer wants me to think the world revolve around me. I gave her a gucci diaper bag and she told me that she was taking it but that i shouldnt be buying her friendship, But i think it goes beyond that.When i found out she was pregnant i bought her a $350 edible arrangement for her and her husband. And i also gave her husband a "new dad" gift . She talked to me the whole day that day as always but we are back to the cold shoulder. She made me realize that she doesnt want my friendship, but i do feel sorry for her bcus she just pushed a wonderful friend out of her life. I still feel very hurt bcus i was always there when she needed me and when i needed her to listen and just give me a hug she told me no... I really do wish her the best bcus even thou she is a pretty <snip>bad friend, shes a great person. Thanks for your post!
Seriously after reading this OP please, please, please see a psychologist. There is someone wrong with a girl/woman who feels she has to please her friends by buying them expensive gifts. Find something positive in your life, whether it's your job, a hobby or whatever and try to cultivate better friendships where you don't buy your friends anything more than a $5 lunch or a small birthday gift until you have been friends for awhile. Otherwise some people will use you, there are plenty of them out there. They may not want your friendship but they won't say no to your expensive gifts.
And while it's okay to vent or complain ONCE IN A WHILE - don't let it become your whole personality. Nobody wants to have a friend that is a constant Debbie Downer.
she seems very busy with her life now. I think also she has some big problems or she feels hurt about something serious going on in her life
I'm saying that because I have a nagging spoiled friend who complains about silly problems. It makes me crazy sometimes especially when I have so many problems to deal with and keep it in my heart.
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