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I have some Facebook friends who consistently post items that I find pretentious. I grew up with parents who always wanted to be "under the radar" and if they did or bought anything else attributed to affluence, it was done quietly. I rarely reveal such things either. I was just raised to believe these things are private and its tacky to show this side to the world.
Therefore, it is off-putting to me when I see a lot of postings like:
"My maid always forgets to dust the lightbulbs, don't you just hate that!"
"Dang, we need to get another house, don't know where we'll put the new Masarati (photo included)"
"Out for a sunday walk in the 'hood with the doggies (but the photo has a tiny corner showing dogs, the photo is intended to brag on the neighborhood)"
"Love coming home after a hard day's work to the fam (photo is a family pool time at resort-style backyard with outdoor kitchen, water features, etc....again most of the photo captures the luxury and very little of the kids -- or in this case the dogs & husband."
Have you noticed this stuff?
Am I the only one who finds this tacky?
I have some Facebook friends who consistently post items that I find pretentious. I grew up with parents who always wanted to be "under the radar" and if they did or bought anything else attributed to affluence, it was done quietly. I rarely reveal such things either. I was just raised to believe these things are private and its tacky to show this side to the world.
Therefore, it is off-putting to me when I see a lot of postings like:
"My maid always forgets to dust the lightbulbs, don't you just hate that!"
"Dang, we need to get another house, don't know where we'll put the new Masarati (photo included)"
"Out for a sunday walk in the 'hood with the doggies (but the photo has a tiny corner showing dogs, the photo is intended to brag on the neighborhood)"
"Love coming home after a hard day's work to the fam (photo is a family pool time at resort-style backyard with outdoor kitchen, water features, etc....again most of the photo captures the luxury and very little of the kids -- or in this case the dogs & husband."
Have you noticed this stuff?
Am I the only one who finds this tacky?
Yes, it is extremely tacky.
But, I haven't noticed anything like that with any of my Facebook friends. Usually they just share photographs of their kids FRONT & CENTER and a few cartoons and recipes.
If one deactivates facebook like we did several years ago, one does not see things like this however, if one has friends who prefer to not draw needless attention to themselves such issues are not an issue. Only those who wish to impress others with their self perceived wealth and success do things like this and if the full truth were known they are more than likely over extended and in debt above their earlobes.
No I have not. Not among my circle of facebook friends. But I did with one.
I did defriend someone a few years ago for similar things. He was in a New Wave rock band in the 70s and 80s. Everyone knows he has money. He really didn't need to post photos of his 1700s restored Connecticut farm house or a 2 year bottle of wine or an Astin Martin. It was obnoxious.
So in a post, I called him out on it. I said "we get it" you have money, not can you stop postings photos of your possessions? It's getting old."
Because I embarrassed him, he defriended me. (was about to do that anyway, but I wanted to let him know why.
Through that I received many friend requests and made one good friend.
Because he was a "famous person" some people like to have him on their friend list, and he was getting away with things that most others would not.
So if these people annoy you, unfriend them. But first tell them why.
The people on my Facebook were generally not affluent, so this didn't come up, but it cuts both ways too. A lot of the people on my Facebook were not well off and constantly complained about gas money, lack of income, their crappy jobs, etc.
I think those people fall into the larger category of people who want to convince the world and themselves that the life they portray on facebook is their real life.
"If I post enough about how much I love my husband, how wonderful my kid is, how beautiful my home is, and all the flashy things I buy, then my life will magically become that fantasy."
I kind of think there's an inverse relationship between the amount of these posts a person puts out, and the level of satisfaction with their own lives.
The people on my Facebook were generally not affluent, so this didn't come up, but it cuts both ways too. A lot of the people on my Facebook were not well off and constantly complained about gas money, lack of income, their crappy jobs, etc.
That's how some of my FB friends are. There's always the one Eeyore type who comments, "must be nice to be able to afford a vacation," when someone posts pictures from their trip.
I have one whose statuses always have something to do with which latest gadget she's getting. When the iphone 4s came out, she was like "should I get it in gold?"...then the iphone 5 came out 10 minutes later and she had to advertise that she was upgrading. Who cares? Same with all the tablets and ipads. Do we need to know that you have 5 of them? LOL She tends to comment also about her car, which isn't a big a deal but she has to make sure she throws in there the make and model--it's an SUV that plenty of other people I know also have. Her husband had gone away somewhere and he brought her back a designer handbag "to add to her collection"--a brand that I have about 6 of hanging in my closet. She's a nice woman but she was like that when we worked together many years ago. I get it. You have nice things. I do too but not everyone needs to know LOL
Those who find their FB friends' posts annoying but don't want to unfriend them: you do realize you can take them out of your general newsfeed and set up a separate list for them, right?
Then it's your option to look or not look at their posts, whatever strikes your fancy at the moment.
None of my FB friends do that sort of overt or passive bragging or whiny nonsense. A few DO pass on annoying political and religious junk, so I keep them on the exile list.
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