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You sound like you've been very responsible financially...you should feel good about that, because that's more than alot of fathers do.
But you can't hide from your new wife that you have these kids. I can't see her leaving you for it..she might be a little hurt that you never had enough faith in your relationship with her to tell her though.
I really couldn't see her leaving you for it though...because like you said, the boys did have daddys, even if they weren't the biological father.
She's not my legal wife, even though to me she's my wife. I don't think she'll too pleased about me not mentioning this to her.
"When a man's an empty kettle He should be on his mettle And yet I'm torn apart Just because I'm presumin' That I could be a human If I only had a heart
I'd be tender, I'd be gentle And awful sentimental (if I only had a heart)..."
That's completely different. They were already pregnant and it's not my fault women are the ones who get pregnant.
Someone needs to explain the facts of life to you LOL! It takes two. You are the one who did not want children, YOU should have been fixed. At least they took responsibilty. It is your fault.
First, I don't understand how a man can have a kid, and not want to be in that kid's life. That human being came from you, has your genes, looks like you, and naturally would benefit enormously from having you close. That kid IS you. What kind of man shuns this? It's something I'll never understand. You did this twice. Those two sons of yours didn't ask to be here.
Second, you didn't tell your current partner about the past. You're weren't honest with her, withholding critical information. I would say that your having two kids out there by two different women is something you should've told her. You deceived her to gain favor and win her heart. Shame on you for misrepresenting yourself.
All you can do now is come clean about everything. You have to disclose to your current partner the truth about your past. She will be devastated because you're not the man she thought you were. You have to face the two sons you shunned. They apparently are trying to make sense of their lives, get some answers, and try to place you in a light that benefits them since they're struggling with the knowledge that one of the people who made them, doesn't want anything to do with them. Quite a shame.
Every woman and every kid deserves better. Incredible.
Last edited by LexusNexus; 02-16-2014 at 03:54 PM..
Men, if you want to make certain that there will be no babies, then YOU need to handle the birth control.
OP, I think you should meet your sons. I'm fairly certain that once the meeting takes place, they won't want anything to do with you.
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