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I'm afraid she'll want to break up with me if I tell her the truth.
Why would you think she would break up with you? The answer will be interesting. Is it because she will know you are the kind of person that could ignore his children like that?
Why would you think she would break up with you? The answer will be interesting. Is it because she will know you are the kind of person that could ignore his children like that?
Because she's also a mother and women never make an effort to put themselves in the man's shoes. I wasn't given a choice. They both wanted to go ahead with pregnancy regardless of how I felt towards it. They never thought about me but somehow men should always put women's interests first.
Because she's also a mother and women never make an effort to put themselves in the man's shoes. I wasn't given a choice. They both wanted to go ahead with pregnancy regardless of how I felt towards it. They never thought about me but somehow men should always put women's interests first.
Well, what you're experiencing is called a reckoning.
Tell your SO the truth. Then beging taking actual, real steps toward accountability in your life instead of blaming others for things that "happen" to you.
Because she's also a mother and women never make an effort to put themselves in the man's shoes. I wasn't given a choice. They both wanted to go ahead with pregnancy regardless of how I felt towards it. They never thought about me but somehow men should always put women's interests first.
She should break up with you. It's what you deserve.
name-calling and post-fact advice aside, your current partner will find out, if she hasn't already. It'd be best to hear it from you. Since your sons are not going to be a part of your lives now, the only thing that could hurt your relationship is distrust.
As to why they want to see you, you're their father. They probably are just curious. Keep in mind, they're adults now, not children. Although just showing up at your home without calling was not cool, it's done. If you really don't want to meet them ,write and tell them.
Because she's also a mother and women never make an effort to put themselves in the man's shoes. I wasn't given a choice. They both wanted to go ahead with pregnancy regardless of how I felt towards it. They never thought about me but somehow men should always put women's interests first.
Sure, you had a choice - it's called a vasectomy. You didn't do that.
It's not that your SO won't "make the effort" to put herself into your shoes - it's that she will recognize how stinky those shoes are.
Put your big boy pants on and tell her the truth. Let the chips fall where the may. It's the only decent, mature thing to do.
Do you intend to call the sons?
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