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As I, a man, was walking out of an office building, while holding a paper and reading it, a woman was right in front of me, opened the door and held the door for me (just held the door for a fraction of a second and NO hold and wait for me to walk fast and arrive at the door, since I was just right behind her).
Since I was concentrating on the paper and since I have done it (holding the door for others) thousands of times for others without any expectation or reaction in return, I didn't say anything. The woman goes "A THANK YOU WOULD HAVE BEEN NICE!" while giving me the evil look.
Am I at fault or is she over-reacting or over-expecting?
She held the door without being asked, and while a thanks would have been nice, you owed her nothing. If it was pouring rain or snowing and you were half way across the parking lot and she waited, that's going above and beyond, and would have deserved a pat on the back, but she didn't really do anything special in this instance, so she's overreacting.
Everyone taking advantage of her holding the door open should have acknowledged such with a simple "thanks" or "thank you". Not unforgivable offense though in such a situation I suppose.
BTW: I've murmured such words when I've held doors for folks who completely ignore me. "Thank you" is a very endearing phrase.
She held the door without being asked, and while a thanks would have been nice, you owed her nothing. If it was pouring rain or snowing and you were half way across the parking lot and she waited, that's going above and beyond, and would have deserved a pat on the back, but she didn't really do anything special in this instance, so she's overreacting.
That's what I thought. How can you get angry at someone who didn't do anything to you and you didn't do anything for them that's beyond the norm?
Keep in mind, I was reading something and distracted. And, to me, holding the door is no big deal.
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