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Wow! That sounds like my person too. She can't settle for a normal life. Always has to be stirring up some drama.
Plus she is a con artist and has sucked several people for money. One old guy for hundreds of thousands. She is fraudulant in her ''business'' practices as well. Any way she can get a buck she will do it.
Avoid and ignore. If no other options, smile and tell them they are right. And, even when you tell them they're right, they'll still argue and say you're wrong.
Know-it-alls have a very difficult personality.
They have a vibe of Ursala from Little Mermaid, Cruella da Ville, and Oscar the Grouch, combined with an @sshole d-bag element about them like Aston Kutcher or Nick Lachey. Makes your skin crawl.
Oh lord just like my aunt,, you describe her very well. Nothing else to say. She lives in Germany. she do exactly the same. But I have accidentally found a way to deal with her. When she call I answer, when she starts talk with her all theory talks, I drop the receiver not hanging up, and I do my work after 10 or 12 min I take receiver and I " oh really " "ah gosh" "oh boy " or something what ever to match with what she says that is how I deal with my aunt. I am the only one she can call just for free. So she do every single after noon if I am not at home she call on my mobile, then I drop it on recorded voices. I don't know if you have ever notice this sort of people never conscious when they start talking they have no clue if the other one listing. Sorry about you going through the same as me.
Yeah that is SO funny but so true. I did one time set the phone down on speaker and walked away to do chores. Came back 15 minutes later and she was still yammering away. Never missed a beat.
Somebody ought to invent a device that you can hook up or set next to your phone like that. A little recorder that mutters phrases of agreement or pity. That's all they want really.
Yes! That! I've done that with the motor-mouth I know too, just set the phone down and go about my business, come back later, she's still blathering on. I don't know when she takes a breath! I love the recording idea
Some times when one acts as a sounding board, in stead of help, it back fires into becoming a constant barrage of noise, because that is their only perception of significance.
If you encourage a dog to bark by rewarding it ,somethings even ignoring it ,it is almost impossible to stop.
Addressing the problem from the very beginning sometimes helps but not permanently .
Though it is assumed that women had better communications skills ,I think that value has diminished significantly in the last decade or two.
A great many things are responsible ,mostly fantasy in books and movies ,and the advise of other women.
Notice how few women can think for them self ?
They ( great many it seems ) don't even know who they are , they can't tell you what they believe, till you tell/answer them what you believe.
Some , rather than tell you what the really believe, tell you either what they think you want to hear, or find the opposite approach just for controversy, or to see how you will react .
It's a manipulation.
I have met only a few that will tell me what they really believe , not to be controversial but because they really do know them self, from an honest evaluation. Or as honest as they can for that matter.
Though I may disagree with certain issues, I have the greater respect for them.
What's scary is a woman the agrees with every thing I say , then the red flags go up .
I have been the sounding board for a few women , not a yes man ,merely to offer perspective from the evidence presented.
I have also refused to be a sounding board to some that are not really interested in bettering their situation.
Kind of like the video with a man and woman talking and she is complaining about the pain in her head which is a nail, but she does not want it fixed , it is all her ploy of sympathy for her problem . If you remove the problem sympathy may also be removed.
I would just quit answering her calls. Or, if that is impossible......make a deal with yourself....on the days when you feel that you have extra energy and time, answer her calls.....and don't other times.
Dealing with someone who makes you feel like they are sucking the air out of you is not something that you have to do. So, quit volunteering.
Avoidance is not the best coping skill, but it sounds necessary in this situation for your own mental health. Good luck
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