Why do some women hate other women so much (gossip, brother, sister)
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At the fundamental core of it all--it is competition. Don't take it so personally. In fact, I think you'll find it's much easier to let this slide off your back when you understand and think about it differently. You see, we are not unlike animals who are territorial, vying for mates when we are in our child-bearing years, and securing resources to raise our offspring (food/shelter/etc.). Men behave similarly for the same reasons. But instead of so much name calling and catty behavior, they posture like peacocks, butt heads like billy goats, and chest thump like gorillas. (Do you see what I mean?) Women do these things too, but in slightly different ways. Name calling is one of them. We sting with our tongues whereas a man uses his body. We can learn a lot about ourselves if we just observe nature. For me, I just laugh at such things now...
I think this is in large part correct.
I hear a lot about how woman hate each other but honestly haven't experienced it or seen it that much.
I think like many things people like to take the few behaving badly and get all wound up as if that is common behavior....talking about women and how they hate each other is its own juicy nastiness
and its I think over reported.
I like women. For general easy conversation and a fun time talking in social conversation, I have more to talk about with men. But for deeper relationships (non-sexual) I prefer women.
I think it's how they were raised. Some women teach their daughters that the "enemy" is other women. I have seen it in action.
Oh yes, I have seen this in action too. Do you know my in-laws? My MIL is very catty and she raised her daughters to be the same. Now that my SIL's have daughters I see a new generation of it. ack. My one 10 yr old niece already thinks she is better than me. I do feel the main components are insecurity and jealousy though. After years of studying my in-laws I see they get fired up about stuff that they would like to have or do. It is acceptable in their little world to just hate the other person. They do complain about men but there is definitely more venom towards women.
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Women do seem very critical and judgemental of other women, what she wears.etc, I don't get why they're so damn interested, to be honest. Of course many aren't like that.
I confess! I think Kim Kardashian is a waste of carbon matter. Hate is a strong word, but the whole "famous for being famous" thing is absurd. Go save a life, build an orphanage, discover a cure, give until it hurts, and then I'll consider how great you are--man or woman. Serve a purpose other than self-indulgent excess, and then I'll respect you. Maybe. If you aren't self-promotional about it.
Anyway, I don't think the phenomenon of hatred of one's own gender is unique to women. Men do it, too. They'll question the sexuality of men who are better-looking or better-groomed than they are. On the Relationships board, a cadre like to try to insult men who are married, in relationships, or agree with women by calling them "white knights," when those men are really not. It's a gross exaggeration akin to women calling women who get along with men sexual epithets.
Overall, I think it's human nature for the insecure to lash out. I'm not saying that it's right. Just that it's what insecure people do.
I'm disappointed to see so few people disagree with the basic premise of this discussion. I've never called anyone I know a name like that and I never would. I'd say the OP's friends might be watching too many reality TV programs. There's no doubt about it that those programs like Real Housewives encourage and glamorize women acting out in crude ways. But all reality shows heighten ridiculous, manufactured drama. Do you really think getting your car towed always ends in fisticuffs?
I think women might appear to be more critical than men in that women tend to put more store in interpersonal relationships than men do. Women watch behavior (of men and children, as well as other women) and draw conclusions about it. Ask a man if he noticed that the couple you're eating dinner with appeared to be cool with each other and he'll say, "Huh?" A woman will not only notice, but waste brain power wondering why.
Men seem to take each other on a superficial level more easily. They don't worry about whether or not they like someone, let alone articulate it. I think men are generally, with each other at least, are also more willing to forgive and forget. Men can have terrible ugly arguments and a week later they are golfing together as if nothing had ever happened. Women tend to internalize events like that more. But if a man is mad enough at another man, he won't INternalize it, he'll EXternalize it.
Hate them so much that they will call them every name in the but a child of God. Whores, ****, ugly, dirty, all kinds of mean things.
What causes such hate from another human to another??? One thing I noticed is that it usually stem from another man. If one woman has an advantage at meeting more men than the other, she gets hated for it, but I don't see men acting like this.
Example, Kim Kardashian, alot of women are promiscuous like Kim, but yet they hate her being that way.
What say you?
I don't have much input regarding the woman aspect.
But please don't underestimate how much and what ends men go to in similiar scenerios.
Men will literally fight, manipulate, lie, cheat, steal, back stab, and any combination of such when it comes to chasing a woman another guy has a chance with.
Guys usually just do things that people say "wtf?", but many times it is an indirect way at beating on their chest or being the peacock.
Guys are incredibly rude to each other, but most of the time, other people, including other guys, often don't see/ understand the situation.
I think it's how they were raised. Some women teach their daughters that the "enemy" is other women. I have seen it in action.
Some women teach their daughters that by being their first enemy.
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My MIL is very catty and she raised her daughters to be the same. Now that my SIL's have daughters I see a new generation of it. ack. My one 10 yr old niece already thinks she is better than me. 
I do feel the main components are insecurity and jealousy though. After years of studying my in-laws I see they get fired up about stuff that they would like to have or do. It is acceptable in their little world to just hate the other person. They do complain about men but there is definitely more venom towards women.
