How well do you really know your close friends?

[mitopcat]

Originally Posted by Northside904

Get new friends, problem solved. If your so-called friends aren't interested in the details of your life, cut them loose and invest in people you're going to click with

Get new friends? I say keep them, you never know when you need a round of normalcy at some point. Just because they don't wish to know your deep, dark secrets, doesn't mean they don't want to at all or aren't there for you either way.

Having as much friends as you possibly can is good. Have some that will come over to your house to play Texas Hold 'Em and shoot-the-*hit with you. They don't need to know that much about you to hang out, or at least want to hang out with you.

At the same time, try to meet some people that are more to talking about things, as such. I have at least one friend that asks me all the time, "What do you like to do in your spare time?", "What are you goals in life?" The sad part of this is I can't hang out with this person anymore. We still talk a lot though, but to be with this person is would be so wonderful.

[TabulaRasa]

Pretty well. I'm a big observer, and years of being a writer/reporter got me well into the practice of noticing and remembering a lot of details. People are often surprised by details I notice and remember about them, even years later. You can't write about people very well or thoroughly unless you've taken the time to learn quite a bit about them.

[jobaba]

Originally Posted by Workaholic?

How well do you really know your close friends? And how well do they know you?

It is amazing to me how self absorbed most of the people I feel close to are. Really they are not all that curious about me. Most rarely ask me much about my work, my family, my other friends, my hopes, my dreams, my goals and aspirations. When I try to bring up subjects that would tell them more about me it appears they are really not that interested. Instead, they are more interested in what I think about the new TV shows, my bowling outing last night, the weather and other chit chat topics.

Rarely do even close friends want to know about me and they think it is strange when I want to know much about them.

Do I have an odd group of friends, or is the chit chat mode the most common form of communication among friends?

I have two, maybe three people in my life who I can share everything with ... meaning the type of sh@t I share on this message board with total strangers!

The others I wouldn't call close friends. Maybe good, but not close/tight.

It helps to have at least one reliable person like this in your life when you need to cry on a shoulder.

[purehuman]

Workaholic...I'm sorry to say this.....you may have friends....but not close ones.

[Raena77]

Some close friends you can count on. Some are just for entertainment. Some are co-workers you have worked with for awhile. I have a hard time getting close to many people in the beginning. I have trust issues. Yet I do try to see the good first though.