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This is a concept that I presumably should have grasped about a decade ago but I still fail to do so. No matter what I do, it seems like it's very difficult to ever turn an acquaintance into a friend. I've joined a club, talked to plenty of people, tried to maintain a positive attitude while around others, none of that seems to work.
So yeah, how do you make friends? I never got the instruction manual for it, yet everybody else has.
This is a concept that I presumably should have grasped about a decade ago but I still fail to do so. No matter what I do, it seems like it's very difficult to ever turn an acquaintance into a friend. I've joined a club, talked to plenty of people, tried to maintain a positive attitude while around others, none of that seems to work.
So yeah, how do you make friends? I never got the instruction manual for it, yet everybody else has.
I'm just myself, and my personality is what makes people like me.
That and lots of laughs. But I've honed my joking around pretty well through the years, so it comes natural anymore.
Not saying you have to be a walking doormat who goes around doing stuff for people and getting taken advantage of. Just that maybe you could take a look at your circle of acquaintances and see if there is anyone there who might be struggling with something you can help them with.
You become friends with those you share common interests & lifestyles. Whatever interest you share, there is an opportunity to invite someone to join you. Another single guy? Go to a club or wherever.
How do you avoid it would be a better question for me, even people I dislike (and sometimes clearly tell them that) tend to hang around.
I suppose you get friends by being straightforward, honest, friendly and helpful. It means you might rub some people the wrong way, but no one needs to get along with everybody.
What would you define as a friend? Do you mean people you occasionally go to dinner with, or a movie, our the kind you consider family?
This is a concept that I presumably should have grasped about a decade ago but I still fail to do so. No matter what I do, it seems like it's very difficult to ever turn an acquaintance into a friend. I've joined a club, talked to plenty of people, tried to maintain a positive attitude while around others, none of that seems to work.
So yeah, how do you make friends? I never got the instruction manual for it, yet everybody else has.
Hurri, there is obviously something about you that people find off-putting. Kind of hard to tell here...since we don't know you. There is no "magic" to making friends...it's really a natural process for people...for most of them anyway. It does seem like you tend to analyze everything to death, and try too hard...perhaps that comes through when you talk to people.
I don't even try to make friends and yet I have enough and always have.
I think the key is similar to making love to a woman, be unselfish.
Also like others have said live out your interests with others and before long they will be friends.
Hurri, there is obviously something about you that people find off-putting. Kind of hard to tell here...since we don't know you. There is no "magic" to making friends...it's really a natural process for people...for most of them anyway. It does seem like you tend to analyze everything to death, and try too hard...perhaps that comes through when you talk to people.
I agree with chessie here...
I make friends with people very easily...but I'm a chatty Cathy and I smile a lot (I've got the lines on my face to prove it!).
I think you need to focus on what makes you an individual. I'm not sure if you are trying to mold yourself into someone else in the company of others, hoping they will accept you?
It is hard to tell on here though but I will say that you do tend to focus on the negative...and I wonder if that comes across in real life as well?
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