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Then why would GC be more accommodating towards the growing number of East Asians moving there? They are neither white nor predominantly Catholic.
You're asking me to put myself in the position of someone that I am not. I am giving the OP the perspective of the people who actually live in the community, many of whom were raised there and it's their idea of Nirvana. I don't know what else you want me to tell you. She seems to feel it was good feedback. Will they feel outright racism? No but it's not a diverse community and the people like it that way - they aren't interested in diversity of thought, culture, religion. That's just the way it is. Where we live now was just the type of change I was looking for - my kids' friends are from all over the country and world and it's not weird to them to have friends of different colors, cultures and ethnicities. When we drive around and see Christmas lights in October we know it's because of Diwali. Not because the people wanted to get a jump start on their holiday decorating. DD went on an end-of-summer lake trip with friends and had Korean BBQ and kimchee for lunch. That would be fascinating in GC! Here it's another day at the office. There are towns on LI where they will be truly accepted - not just a unicorn that's interesting on the surface.
Asians are starting to make in-roads into GC, we sold out house to Asians 7 years ago.
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There are no minority communities in Garden City. It's like 95% white and the rest are mostly East Asian.
So if Asians are making inroads and can apparently manage their ethnic/cultural differences with their new GC neighbors, why can't the OP and their kids? Why would they be less capable? They're LI locals and act the part, they speak the lingo.
I apologize for misunderstanding your initial post. I will stand by what I said earlier though, as you are not a child growing up in GC, but you know your own children. I am also not sure what you mean by "open minded" but your other parameters seem to fit. Others can comment on the "open minded" portion, I have said enough.
not at all nuts2uiam. the internet is a funny place and things like tone and meaning don't always translate well digitally.
by open-minded i mean someone's not gonna put their house up for sale cuz we moved in next door. i'm not gonna be told to "go back to my country" when i'm out somewhere (go back where? park slope?).
we decorate for christmas, go to friend's houses for seders, and celebrate thanksgiving and halloween and easter with everybody else. we are conscious, especially in the current climate that people are more aware than ever of what we look like.
do you have any inkling as to how port washington does in this department in comparison to GC or is it more of the same?
So if Asians are making inroads and can apparently manage their ethnic/cultural differences with their new GC neighbors, why can't the OP and their kids? Why would they be less capable? They're LI locals and act the part, they speak the lingo.
it's such a tricky, sticky subject. degrees of racism. in many places east asians are perceived more favorably than south asians. muslims of course now are looked upon in alot of places as public enemy #1. doesn't matter that we're just everyday people doing the same things everyone else is doing - shopping at the mall, filling up gas, coaching little league, brunching on sundays. its scary for me, especially as a mother, thinking about my young sons. we usually are able to make inroads...i guess then, the question to ask is if GC is a place inroads can even be made?
Focus should be on your kids since you are obviously looking for a good school district too...I have a Catholic friend w/ biracial asian/black girls in Rockland county who go to a predominantly Irish/Italian public school there. The older one is not really shy but never made any close friends no playdates and many times sat alone during lunch. She transferred to a nearby Catholic school w/ more diversity,much smaller class size and is liking it much better. Her younger sister on the other hand is a social butterlfy and has no problems making friends so she continues in the public schools. I would talk to school and see how inclusive they are, how they handle bullying and browse website/social media and check out the kids and activities and see if it's the kind of place your kids will thrive in...
Check out the 2017 HS graduation ceremony https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rRLEEcRmUYA
Few seconds l watched looked pretty diverse...
Focus should be on your kids since you are obviously looking for a good school district too...I have a Catholic friend w/ biracial asian/black girls in Rockland county who go to a predominantly Irish/Italian public school there. The older one is not really shy but never made any close friends no playdates and many times sat alone during lunch. She transferred to a nearby Catholic school w/ more diversity,much smaller class size and is liking it much better. Her younger sister on the other hand is a social butterlfy and has no problems making friends so she continues in the public schools. I would talk to school and see how inclusive they are, how they handle bullying and browse website/social media and check out the kids and activities and see if it's the kind of place your kids will thrive in...
Check out the 2017 HS graduation ceremony https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rRLEEcRmUYA
Few seconds l watched looked pretty diverse...
I think that's because thats the wrong Garden City. Lol. GC's mascott is the Trojan not the Buffaloes.
Not for nothing but Twingles lived there so I think she knows what she's talking about- even if its not what some really want to hear. Its also not anything new.
I think that's because thats the wrong Garden City. Lol. GC's mascott is the Trojan not the Buffaloes.
Not for nothing but Twingles lived there so I think she knows what she's talking about- even if its not what some really want to hear. Its also not anything new.
LOL! Was gonna say that certainly isn't LI's Garden City.
To the OP I'd take some stock in what twingles said as she lived there for years and knows it well. IMO Port Washington and Syosset are more diverse communities both with great school districts and some beautiful areas. Garden City and "open minded" are rarely in the same sentence unfortunately its just not how that community is.
OP, it sounds like you're so "assimilated" at this point that you feel more comfortable around white Garden Cityites than your own people in a community like Herricks. That's all well and good, but the people of Garden City probably won't see you that way. It's probably the most white and Christian town in the region, and the people there like it that way. Honestly I think you'd be happier on the North Shore. I wouldn't recommend GC to any person of color.
so much nonsense in this thread. You can ignore most of it. Are you and your husband successful hard working people who value education, will maintain your home, and want to live where others share those values? If so, you'll fit right in. If you're worried about your kids making friends, sign them up for youth soccer, gymnastics, or any other activity where they can interact with kids their own age.
Things are different for our children compared to years ago. They are way more aware of diverse cultures and experiences, even if they're living in a place like GC. Yes cliques may form and your children might be excluded as they get older. Plenty of white kids will be excluded as well.
OP, it sounds like you're so "assimilated" at this point that you feel more comfortable around white Garden Cityites than your own people in a community like Herricks. That's all well and good, but the people of Garden City probably won't see you that way. It's probably the most white and Christian town in the region, and the people there like it that way. Honestly I think you'd be happier on the North Shore. I wouldn't recommend GC to any person of color.
"Your own people in a community like Herricks"? That would be akin to saying that the "own people" of LegalDiva and OBH (who are of Latino descent) are the ones who live in Brentwood. How sure are you that OP and family identify themselves more with the people in Herricks than mainstream LI/Americans born and raised in LI? And what's there for them to assimilate? They were born and raised in the US (in the case of the OP, in LI itself). Therefore, assimilation is a non-starter since it was their ancestors who already assimilated.
I would think "their own people" in this case would be other non-immigrant long islanders.
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