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swopoe · 10-12-2015, 05:03 PM

I am in SL, and my elementary kids don't want me coming to lunch. They would rather eat lunch with their friends. Better for them and for me!

Aliana926 · 10-12-2015, 06:53 PM

Between myself, husband, her uncle and aunt, we treat this as a reward...if she's good in school for a week, one of us will surprise her and eat lunch with her. She loves it!

Htown homie · 10-12-2015, 09:50 PM

I ate lunch with my daughter's about twice a month at the school cafeteria until around 4th grade. Then they outgrew it and they preferred to socialize with friends instead of eat at a table with dad. It was nice when they were young though. They were also allowed to ask one friend to join us at the table.

houstonfan · 10-12-2015, 10:52 PM

I don't think the schools should allow it. Kids need to socialize with other peers and gain independence. Furthermore, kids whose parents are absent may feel bad, especially the parents who stay at home but just doesn't want to come. For kids with attachment issues, I would think this is a major distraction, do they get upset when mommy has to leave after lunch?

sm24 · 10-13-2015, 08:37 AM

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I don't think the schools should allow it. Kids need to socialize with other peers and gain independence. Furthermore, kids whose parents are absent may feel bad, especially the parents who stay at home but just doesn't want to come. For kids with attachment issues, I would think this is a major distraction, do they get upset when mommy has to leave after lunch?

I agree. If you don't want your kid to eat cafeteria food , pack the lunch in the morning or night before . I also know a mom who feeds with her 1st grader with her hand during the lunch break . I am not judging her , but in my opinion kids need to socialize and learn to be independent .

johnrex62 · 10-13-2015, 08:40 AM

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Don't take it other way , since both of us work, we do not have this luxury . The other day my kid was sad because I can't be with her during the break .Since the moms are with her friends she even can't have lunch with them .

We never had this issue in the other school.

I know children who are saddened to see other children's fathers playing with them because their fathers do not care or are not around. Should we all neglect or abandon our children so those kids won't feel their loss as much?

LonghornHotspur · 10-13-2015, 08:42 AM

If your school doesn't have this program, it should

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Firefly in sweet land · 10-13-2015, 10:44 AM

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I know children who are saddened to see other children's fathers playing with them because their fathers do not care or are not around. Should we all neglect or abandon our children so those kids won't feel their loss as much?

^^^This. I completely agree with johnrex62.

We used to have lunch with our daughter once in a month or so from her 2 - 4 th gr. in corner stone elementary. she loved it. She doesnot want us to come now. In the three years that I saw, MAX of 4 parents along with us anytime. So nothing out of ordinary, even the demographics are Asian dominant.We did the same at her school in Midwest also before coming to Texas.

It's better to enlighten children about some other advantages of having a working mom, so she would realize there are pros and cons for most things in life. Show her the positive side of the coin that makes her not feel sad.

NTexas2010 · 10-13-2015, 10:58 AM

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To their credit, academically many of these kids will be top notch. Socially....not so much.

There is no time for being social. Braxton needs to be either studying, preparing to study, attending after-school tutoring, studying for said tutoring, or planning out his studying. I mean, he's 8 years old already - how will socializing help with future SAT scores?

Reminds me of the helicopter parent on CD who once said she couldn't be bothered to let her kids mow the lawn once/week - "They need to be focused on school".

To the OP, I grew up in the area as well. It wasn't an every-day occurrence for a parent to come eat with their kid, but it probably happened once every couple of weeks and we (as elementary-aged kids at least) thought it was pretty cool.

MumHouston · 10-13-2015, 01:33 PM

OP, just make good use of your sick days and vacation time and drop in as often as possible. When my child was younger I scheduled my doctors appointments to coincide with his lunch. Do what you can as often as you are able. I sometimes have lunch delivered to my son when he has had a rough morning or whenever I know that he would love to see me.