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Smiles are simply most attractive on most people, to most people. If you don't care, then sure, go ahead and sit there with a b*tchy face. But then don't come around complaining that guys don't approach you. You know full well what the problem is.
I get annoyed whenever people say "Victoria Beckham needs to smile" because I've always had the same problem she and a lot of you have in this thread.
Normally my mouth looks like it's frowning or pouting. I can only smile when I find something funny (a comedy movie or joke), at something cute (cats & sometimes babies), or when stoned on pot (but haven't smoked it in a long time).
Back in high school, my HS counselor called me into her office to talk to me about looking sad. When I told her I wasn't sad about anything, she just told me to wear a smile as if it were that easy. Not that I didn't ever wear a smile to school, I was sometimes stoned at school.
A friend's new girlfriend one time pointed out she could tell right off that I was stoned because she said I never smiled except when stoned.
Before my teen years, a neighborhood friend used to sometimes bully me by making frowny pouting faces at me to mock me and kick me in the shins. She changed later on and became friendly, but I think the reason she used to pick on me was because of my tendency to have a sad expression on my face when my mood's neutral.
I've also had people smile at me then soon after frown and act offended when I didn't smile back. I don't think I'm autistic or depressed, but I don't react to smiles by smiling back like a lot of people do. Instead I tend to wonder why they're smiling at me and turn away, not out of shyness but because I have no idea how to explain why I don't automatically smile back like a normal person.
It's silly when people expect others to be able to just smile on command. In the past, I spent time in front of a mirror trying to learn to smile on command, but my fake smile looked too obviously fake, so I gave up and don't fake it.
I could easily wear a constant smile if I'd walk around with a cat, happy babies, or smoked pot, but why should I or anyone have to do things just to satisfy someone who has issues about other people's facial expressions or other appearances?
I think you need to start smoking weed again. And carry a kitten.
Oh I know exactly what you're talking about! It's a genetic trait that has been handed down in our family and even has a name with us--they call it the "Fowler scowl." LOL. My uncle had it bad at 16 and I have a picture of him looking like a thug--didn't help that he had a unibrow besides. Fortunately I took after the other side of the family and it does seem to be dying out, though I'm sure it will show up again in another generation and everyone will be wondering where that came from. My sympathy is with you--my uncle is a rather pleasant man except when he's deep in thought.
Same inherited facial expression in my family as well. People will assume some of us are angry or mad about something, when in actuality, we are quite content.
I had a boss who had it out for me, don't ask me why because I was never able to get to the bottom of it. But nevertheless, she would chastise me for being unapproachable and that coworkers complained 'constantly' about me. I knew she was lying about the complaints after I went to the extreme and made sure I had a stupid grin on my face every second at work. . . and yet, here she came with the same complaint....I just considered the source and let it go.
as a guy, I have this problem too. I just can't help it. by the way, in what universe is it okay for someone to just go up to a person and say "smile"??? I don't see how that would accomplish anything. if I am in a neutral mood and someone does that, it just makes me angry. don't do that. it is rude and I will just ignore you or purposely give you a dirty look.
I may have that problem. With people think I am mad, and I'm not, just minding my own business. So, it sucks for pictures. If I don't smile, I look mean or bored. If I do smile, I think my lips and nose are too big, and it enhances the bigness lol So, I just take no pictures anymore.
Ah, some are just cursed with a mean-looking face where they have to smile for people to think they are mad, or bored.
I think you need to start smoking weed again. And carry a kitten.
I'd need to find a rare pot-smoking kitten because weed's more for social occasions and none of my current friends smoke weed.
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