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My parents have had a caregiving service come in daily to help my mom with tasks, since she's basically bedbound after a fall. I'm not there all the time, but when I've let the caregivers in, we ask them if they need water or to store anything in the fridge and show them where things are. They've been trained to take care of their own stuff, so they often have an insulated lunch bag and a thermos with coffee, but several have remarked that some families treat them with suspicion and our family is very welcoming. It is a situation where they are employed by you, but there's no need to be overly restrictive if these are folks who are coming regularly into your home.
My parents have had a caregiving service come in daily to help my mom with tasks, since she's basically bedbound after a fall. I'm not there all the time, but when I've let the caregivers in, we ask them if they need water or to store anything in the fridge and show them where things are. They've been trained to take care of their own stuff, so they often have an insulated lunch bag and a thermos with coffee, but several have remarked that some families treat them with suspicion and our family is very welcoming. It is a situation where they are employed by you, but there's no need to be overly restrictive if these are folks who are coming regularly into your home.
There are all kinds of people: good and bad, mean and kind, honest and cheating, hard-working and lazy, giving and taking, etc... And everybody reacts differently and accordingly to his/her experiences in life.
When you (in general, not you specifically) have not experienced bad things, such as encountering mean, lazy, cheating, taking advantages of you, treating you wrongly, it's easy to see the world is rosy and want to be nice and kind to others. And there are people who may have experienced bad things to them, but they are forgiving while some others may hold grudges for a long time, or a life time. LOL
And there are people in the management who know how to treat people right, or people who understand about people and can get what they want from them, or people who just talk one way and do the other, can say anything to make them look good.
Some people are missing the point here. There's nothing wrong with employees using WHATEVER if given permission. The point was...they weren't and didn't even ask (unless OP is missing some communication between the employees and the OP's husband). And that's NOT okay.
The landscapers my parents use had a few women on the crew one summer, and they sheepishly asked if they could come in and use the bathroom. They took their boots off outside and were quick--I guess the guys just pee in the woods.
I wouldn't mind the act of using my microwave, but I'd also expect them to ask first. Little courtesies can go a long way and help set the tone for expectations going forward. What is a "big deal" to someone may not be to others, so folks should always seek some clarity IMO especially in situations like this. Shoot, for all the cleaners knew, there could have been a specific reason to not use the microwave.
I find a lot of the comments here disgusting. These are human beings. Though they are serving you, they are not your servants to be treated like the characters in "The Help".
They're just good enough to clean your nasty toilets but not to warm up a quick lunch? You should be ashamed of yourselves.
I find a lot of the comments here disgusting. These are human beings. Though they are serving you, they are not your servants to be treated like the characters in "The Help".
They're just good enough to clean your nasty toilets but not to warm up a quick lunch? You should be ashamed of yourselves.
My lawn service doesn’t use my microwave nor does the woman who cleans my house. They are being paid to do a job that takes a couple of hours. I don’t want them using my personal items. That is MY preference and it should be respected.
I find a lot of the comments here disgusting. These are human beings. Though they are serving you, they are not your servants to be treated like the characters in "The Help".
They're just good enough to clean your nasty toilets but not to warm up a quick lunch? You should be ashamed of yourselves.
You have made me feel ashamed. Actually, we should invite them to come live with us! Our houses are probably nicer than theirs, and that's not fair! Why should we enjoy it and deprive them? In fact, once they and their families move in, WE should clean the house for THEM... For free!
So we have cleaning people that come bi weekly. My husbands idea, not mine. They come around 11am, today they came at 12pm. I typically go into the basement when they come. When I went upstairs at one point I noticed they had food in tupperware set out on the counters. I just heard them use the microwave to heat up the food. I have no idea how busy they are or if being here is the only chance they have to eat lunch but is this normal? They never asked, hey can i use the microwave at your house and eat there?
You're worried about your domestic staff using your microwave? Quite the First World problem huh?
And I know a LOT about the topic. LOTS of experience.
WHY in the world do you need cleaning people all day? That's hilarious. Find a better company. Sounds like your husband found the cheapest worst one available.
There's no house in the world that can't be cleaned in a couple of hours TOPS with the right company.
I can't tell you how many times I kicked people out of my house when they ARRIVE in the MORNING asking to use my BATHROOM.
NO. You're not using my bathroom ANY time of day let along FIRST THING IN THE MORNING - disgusting and ignorant.
Whoa with the all caps. Taking out some frustrations on the keyboard?
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Originally Posted by clevergirl67
I find a lot of the comments here disgusting. These are human beings. Though they are serving you, they are not your servants to be treated like the characters in "The Help".
They're just good enough to clean your nasty toilets but not to warm up a quick lunch? You should be ashamed of yourselves.
I agree.
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Actually, we should invite them to come live with us! Our houses are probably nicer than theirs, and that's not fair! Why should we enjoy it and deprive them? In fact, once they and their families move in, WE should clean the house for THEM... For free!
