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If she is a very good friend of you, she will apologize and understand what you want... She wanted something that you didn't. She is wrong. Give her few days or a week to calm down and maybe later talk again about this.
True friends understand and accept everything
Maybe it was a bad day.......BUT I do kinda feel she has to make a 1st move to apologize to me or to talk through stuff. After thinking about it a couple of days tho........even if she didn't.......I would probably still invite her to the wedding when the time comes but not expect her to show up. She has never even met my fiance......
Maybe it was a bad day.......BUT I do kinda feel she has to make a 1st move to apologize to me or to talk through stuff. After thinking about it a couple of days tho........even if she didn't.......I would probably still invite her to the wedding when the time comes but not expect her to show up. She has never even met my fiance......
I'll be shocked if she even reaches out to you before the wedding.
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Weddings are such a odd situation. I had 2 friends get married in the last year (separate weddings, not to each other) and I wasn't invited to either wedding and I thought I would be. Now that I am planning my own wedding, I understand costs and guest lists and such. I was hurt at the time, but now I totally get it.
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Weddings are such a odd situation. I had 2 friends get married in the last year (separate weddings, not to each other) and I wasn't invited to either wedding and I thought I would be. Now that I am planning my own wedding, I understand costs and guest lists and such. I was hurt at the time, but now I totally get it.
Invitations are a long way from going out...........but this was stuff that she said because she found out I wasn't having a bridal party. She is invited to the wedding. We are keeping costs down by not having a rehearsal dinner.......attendant gifts........attendant flowers & all that stuff, so we're going to have a big reception. A N D we aren't having a church wedding.....we aren't religious........so no fuss about flowers at the church or transportation from the church & all that stuff because the ceremony will be at the same venue. It's going to be super expensive ofc....but lots cheaper than it could be.....
Invitations are a long way from going out...........but this was stuff that she said because she found out I wasn't having a bridal party. She is invited to the wedding. We are keeping costs down by not having a rehearsal dinner.......attendant gifts........attendant flowers & all that stuff, so we're going to have a big reception. A N D we aren't having a church wedding.....we aren't religious........so no fuss about flowers at the church or transportation from the church & all that stuff because the ceremony will be at the same venue. It's going to be super expensive ofc....but lots cheaper than it could be.....
I've told you before, some people get weird when people get married. There is always that one friend that tries to make it about them. Eff that! This is your day, she had hers. You should tell her that if she does call you. She did her wedding her way, you never asked to be in it
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I've told you before, some people get weird when people get married. There is always that one friend that tries to make it about them. Eff that! This is your day, she had hers. You should tell her that if she does call you. She did her wedding her way, you never asked to be in it
Ita.....AND I'm so happy we are not having a bridal party.........so it can be just about us. I'm just not the traditional type.............thank you Rose! I can't rep you again.......
Ita.....AND I'm so happy we are not having a bridal party.........so it can be just about us. I'm just not the traditional type.............thank you Rose! I can't rep you again.......
Years ago, I had a friend who was getting married, and a bunch of her relatives were telling her she had to have this, or she had to have that, she had to do this, she had to do that. It was making her crazy, and it was adding to the cost of the wedding with all of the stuff and traditions that they wanted her to do. One day we were out having lunch and her mother was there and they were talking about this and she was getting upset.
That’s when I looked at her and said here’s the thing, in Pennsylvania, for you to get married all that is required is a bride and groom, and officiant, and two witnesses. The rest is gravy. If you don’t want to get a stupid registration book with a stupid feather pen that costs $25, you don’t have to do it. The state of Pennsylvania does not require you to have one. If you do not want to have foofoo little favors so everyone can take crap home with them, the state of Pennsylvania does not require you to do this. I listed off a litany of things that her family was telling her that she had to do, and told her that the state of Pennsylvania did not require her to do any of this to get married. And then I looked at her and said I just saved you probably $5000. There was silence as we looked at each other, and they got off at Merry Go Round of trying to please every one and she had the wedding she wanted to have.
And the best part? At the wedding everyone was happy and enjoyed themselves
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I'll be shocked if she even reaches out to you before the wedding.
I was a little shocked too........but she called me yesterday & apologized. We are all going stir crazy with being inside so much......but she said she had time to think & she felt really bad. She also told me a little about some stuff she is going through in her marriage & we had a nice conversation.....& that it may have had a part in what she said or how she was feeling that day........so.....IMO it's blown over & she said she was looking forward to celebrating...........tho I'm a little cautious. We've been close friends for sooo long.....it would hurt to see it all end that way.
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