Post wedding - out of town guest drama (invite, husband, money)
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Our daughter got married about 6 months ago. A relative from west coast was invited and came to the wedding. They were invited to the rehearsal dinner and did not come. They did not go through the receiving line at the ceremony to congratulate the couple. They came late and left the reception early without saying goodbye to anyone outside of those at their table.
They are now claiming they were made to feel unwelcome and no longer speaking to bride or us. My husband spoke to them for a few minutes at the reception and we greeted them at the ceremony. They are saying all kinds of hateful things that are just not true and are unwilling to discuss it.
Anyone else with a similar problem? With 150 guests it is quite difficult to make one couple feel special. By the time wedding duties were done, they were gone.
Jay
Last edited by Jaybirddie; 12-21-2017 at 12:20 PM..
Reason: spelling
The wedding was not about them. Exactly what were they expecting? It sounds as though it was their decision not to fully participate after traveling to be there.
The wedding was not about them. Exactly what were they expecting? It sounds as though it was their decision not to fully participate after traveling to be there.
I was thinking the same thing.
The only exception might be "honored guests" like grandparents who may be granted a little extra attention or signs of respect such as a corsage/boutonniere or acknowledgment from the wedding couple and immediate family.
Oh God, there is always something wrong, there is always someone who feels slighted no matter what. If I had to do it all over again I wouldn't. Take the money I spent on wedding go on a nicer vacation. Or new furniture or savings. Or car, really needed a newer car then. My parents actually offered me cash money to not have a wedding and I turned it down, stupid.
Our daughter got married about 6 months ago. A relative from west coast was invited and came to the wedding. They were invited to the rehearsal dinner and did not come. They did not go through the receiving line at the ceremony to congratulate the couple. They came late and left the reception early without saying goodbye to anyone outside of those at their table.
They are now claiming they were made to feel unwelcome and no longer speaking to bride or us.
Jay
Some people like to create drama at weddings (and sadly, at funerals too) to make it all about them. It's also a symptom of histrionic personality disorder. Let them quit talking to you and be grateful for it. I honestly would forget about them.
Oh God, there is always something wrong, there is always someone who feels slighted no matter what. If I had to do it all over again I wouldn't. Take the money I spent on wedding go on a nicer vacation. Or new furniture or savings. Or car, really needed a newer car then. My parents actually offered me cash money to not have a wedding and I turned it down, stupid.
What does this have to do with OP's situation? What he spent (or didn't spend) on the wedding is not the issue here.
Some people like to create drama at weddings (and sadly, at funerals too) to make it all about them. It's also a symptom of histrionic personality disorder. Let them quit talking to you and be grateful for it. I honestly would forget about them.
I agree, the wedding was not about them, so you are better off without the drama queens
Some people like to create drama at weddings (and sadly, at funerals too) to make it all about them. It's also a symptom of histrionic personality disorder. Let them quit talking to you and be grateful for it. I honestly would forget about them.
histrionic personality disorder - Gotta look that one up!
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