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My father's ancestors bought a big plot in a nice Queens cemetery circa 1900! I'm pretty sure the plot can hold at least 25 people and my father may have been number 17 or 18 in there. I'm pretty sure that's where I'll end up. I like the headstone (I tried cleaning it with some product from Amazon that didn't do too much, though). Maybe I should try "Wet and Forget" next. (Sounds like something dogs do - )
Cremations are popular. But I can't get that awful scandal out of my mind about the Tri-State crematory
in Georgia that happened years ago. There was another crematory scandal recently that took place in Colorado! People are so sick!
I think I'll go the budget route and be cremated. No one is going to come see me and my deceased family is all over the place. I'm conjuring up interesting places to spread my remains. A little here....a little there.
We threw my mother from a plane over the Krishnamurti Center and Library in Ojai, CA. She was a big fan and would have gotten a kick out of the trouble we went through to do that!!!
Your child can decide what to do with empty urns?? WHY? You already said your child is not sentimental, do them the favor and toss them.
I can't, I've held onto them so long and several were on display, and they contained the ashes of loved ones, I myself cannot toss them. The one was custom for the (husband's) maiden aunt who was not a pleasant person, I had to insist the 3 of us visit her, and her favorite color was green, so her urn was a lovely marbled green piece, looks like a flower vase only bigger. My child (ok, daughter), might prove me wrong and decide to keep any or all. They are in the original boxes in the closet of a bedroom, out of the way and NBD to be decided on quickly.
My children's father passed away last year and was cremated. My son received the ashes, my girls didn't want them, so he decided to plant a new tree in the backyard and spread them there. My dad was cremated and the urn buried at the double plot at the cemetery. Mom visits all the time.
My bf died last year. He wanted to be cremated, and he told me "I want a handful of me and my dog (died the year before) in the lake (where his retirement house was), and a handful of me and the dog and <late wife> out back here in the garden at this house where we raised the boys, and a handful of me and the dog and the late wife out by her tree (across the street in a park where you could have a memorial tree planted) and a handful of me and the dog and late wife at our extended family's cottage..."
At which point I said, "Maybe this is something you need to talk to your sons about." He didn't, but I told them what he said. I spread some of his and the dog's ashes in the lake because that house is where we had spent our time together, and one of his sons spread some of his and the dog's ashes at the family cottage, but the sons have not proceeded with the rest of it because they didn't think to ask their dad what he did with their mother's ashes. They've looked through the house, and they can't find them. She died about sixteen years ago, and they have no idea where her ashes were stashed.
Because he was an avid fisherman and writer about fishing, we put the box with his ashes into his late father's old creel, and at his memorial service we put a photo of him and his beloved dog next to the creel. Then afterward, his sister had everyone over for a repast and the creel was on the table and we all gathered round with a shot of his favorite expensive tequila and made a toast to him.
When DH died, he was cremated according to our wishes, and the ashes scattered at sea (well, Cape Cod Bay). I think when you are that close to someone, it's distressing to think of their body decomposing in the ground, at least it is for me. And I am glad I don't have a "plot" to visit, that strikes me as sad.
And then I found out how mausoleums deal with the unpleasant effects of body decomposition inside a building. I'll let you look it up for yourselves.
My father's ashes are at the V.A. cemetery as he requested. I went once to make sure the headstone was as he wished but had no sense of him being there. I have no idea where my mother and sister's ashes are- pretty sure they were scattered somewhere.
I do get sentimental about my dogs' ashes, since they were homeless when I got them. They're in my front yard, scattered.
My wife and I purchased two adjacent cemetery plots a couple years ago so our children would not have to come up with the money or make decisions of what would happen to our bodies.
Wife and I are together just like we have been for nearly all of our adult lives.
Nice cemetery and all but I really don't care what it looks like in 50, 200 or 1,000 years from now.
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