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You clicked on a thread with title - Who will take care of you if you don’t have kid? If that’s you - it is a concern and stick around. Otherwise, you are just telling those who don’t have kids how to think about it. Not necessary.
Eh, we'll be in the same boat if neither one of us have kids who will be taking care of us.
How do you plan to handle your care when/if the time comes?
Eh, we'll be in the same boat if neither one of us have kids who will be taking care of us.
How do you plan to handle your care when/if the time comes?
I am out. I am simply pointing out that the most frequent responders to this thread are people with kids who do not need to/wish to/think it is right to trouble them. You yourself, as the most frequent poster on this thread, are a case in point. That is not the same as not having kids in the first place.
Unfortunately this is the fate of every thread on this topic. That being the focus, the thread is uninteresting to me.
Agreed. It is not your children's responsibility to take care of their elderly parents. Don't place this burden on them.
In China, parents can no sue their children for not taking care of them in their senior years. That explains the big growth in nursing homes in China.
If you've got lots of assets and money in the bank, you need not worry about a family member offering to help, providing you put them in your will. But let's hope they're in no great hurry to get their inheritance.
I'm already experiencing this...I have no family close by...no friends...no neighbors(living in an apartment means I rarely see my neighbors).
Due to recent health disasters;I've been in and out of hospitals/clinics...and it's going to get worse in the next few weeks.
When procedures are being performed on me;I get to the hospital via UBER...but then the hospital requires for someone familiar to pick me up because I will be coming out of sedation and may be "taken advantage of"(That's exactly how they state it)...so I can't use UBER to come back home.
My boss is helping by allowing some of my co-workers to come pick me up.
Furthermore,due to my neuropathy and other ailments;I can barely keep my house clean anymore.
I don't know what I will do as I get weaker and sicker...It's scary and a constant source of anxiety/depression,
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#1, friends and spouse (we've done eldercare for over 50 yrs... What goes around, comes around)
#2, senior housing co-op... (Neighbors helping neighbors)
#3, residential home care, in home (I have separate living space in all my homes)
#4, residential care home, private home as multi resident care.
#5, my favorite state senior care center. On the site of hot springs park. Application is signed, and in my file. Very affordable + accepts Medicaid if needed.
If I were a veteran, rather than the 40 yrs caring for one ... I would be considering State Veterans Homes. Many are superb, and in scenic, pleasant locations.
If all the above fail.... Send me a to Thailand or the Philippines.
For my cousin, no kids, not married -- First when we was still doing pretty well but declining to handle his own affairs, neighbors and dear friends stepped in to help him pay bills, keep his apartment up, socialize with him -- he and one neighbor for years walked together every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday morning from 6 - 8 a.m. , took him on outings. One couple with two kids even took him on visits to visit their family out of town -- thought of him as part of their family (They even got family portraits that included him). He knows all these people from his church -- very kind sweet religious person. As he got worse and it was more than neighbors could handle -- Honestly IMHO it is absolutely how amazing how much they did for him for so long (what incredible, kind, and compassionate people who treated him like a brother), he eventually had a professional guardian assigned to him -- the VA was quite instrumental in helping with that. It is expensive, but he is blessed with a very competent, ethical, kind profession guardian who has navigated selling his condo, getting him into the best fit assisted living place, managing with other professionals -- bills, investments, buying clothing for him, keeping tabs on things.
And as he got worse -- he just recently had to move to a different assisted living facility -- is in a memory care unit now. I cried as I thought the other place was so nice for him. But OMG he is adjusting well to the new place -- has a really nice room with his own furnishing guardian and assistants bought for him (his funds of course). He takes walks with other residents and recently attended a dance there -- even asked someone to dance and told me he has a new friend. The move was the right thing -- With the new care place he is sounding clearer in the head and happier than he has been in a long time. I'll be doing an annual visit to see him in early February.
Many may be able to manage their own affairs for their lives with more minimal help, but the above is what happened with my cousin.
As the only relative who is still in contact with him -- I live in St. Louis, MO -- He lives in Tampa, FL (I talk to him on the phone weekly and fly out to visit him once a year, usually coming down for about three days), his guardian keeps me posted about things. I get sent the statements that they have of activities, charges, things like that -- not that I ever asked to get that -- but they send this to me as the only relative he is in contact with.
The kindness and compassion of people I have met and experienced in my cousin's care is truly amazing and really improves my whole outlook on humanity. My cousin, though, too is a kind compassionate person -- always did and does so much for others and is a person who has such a sweet disposition and a wonderful sense of humor.
Under glorious socialism the collective State will tax "other people's children" to pay for your retirement pension.
Except that socialism triggered a collapse in the birthrate, which does not bode well.
Before socialism, one's old age security was based on either private charity or one's family (i.e. children), hence the preference for many children - to help spread the burden.
FWIW - saving "dollar bills" for one's rainy day is futile, since the gubmint will debauch them and tax them back.
If you don't have a big family, try to get adopted by one. . .
why do you live in this country? all you do is whine about it and whine about the dollar … seems to me you should you find a better place if it’s so bad.
i keep telling you send all your worthless dollars to me but so far nothing
You clicked on a thread with title - Who will take care of you if you don’t have kid? If that’s you - it is a concern and stick around. Otherwise, you are just telling those who don’t have kids how to think about it. Not necessary. Those who have kids but do not want to bother them are in a different category and don’t appreciate the issues those without kids have.
If you wouldnt burden your children as caregivers, would that not leave you with the same options as those without children?
My mother did not want to bother us so she moved away but is close to her sister and they intend on relying on each other as they get older. For me, I hope to pass before I ever need a caregiver, but if not, I think I would hire a caregiver to come to my house as needed. I think thats the simplest solution for those of us that would not want to end up in a nursing home.
I have no kids. My plan is to become a burden on society.
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