Friends with little or nothing in common? (vacations, divorce, long-term)
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How would you even MEET people "with whom you have nothing in common"? You must be in the same place and/or doing the same thing, or you'd never even run across each other (barring approaching strangers you see on the street). Ergo, where you met or what you were doing is at least ONE thing you have in common.
I used work for a hospital system with about 17,000 employees, and was a numerous software projects that impacted all sorts of teams. I ended up coming across tons of people I didn’t have anything in common with.
I used work for a hospital system with about 17,000 employees, and was a numerous software projects that impacted all sorts of teams. I ended up coming across tons of people I didn’t have anything in common with.
You had the hospital system and the software projects in common.
But even that little bit in commom does not make them good friends as the OP speculates....
They are merely workplace acquaintances.
You had the hospital system and the software projects in common.
But even that little bit in commom does not make them good friends as the OP speculates....
They are merely workplace acquaintances.
But that is like saying that breathing is what you have in common, or having a body made of carbon-based organic molecules. Having or not having something in common, when it comes to friends, generally refers to common beliefs and opinions.
I have an ex-coworker from 30 yrs ago when we first met. We managed to stay in touch throughout the years and became good friends.
That is so wonderful! I've never been able to maintain work friendships after I left the job. My office pals got me through the late nights, the tense meetings, and commiserated with me at more happy hours than I can count. However, even though that fostered trust and deep connections, those commonalities ended.
That is why I clearly said they were workplace acquaintances, not good friends.
Well, I don't discuss anything other than practical matters on hand with acquaintances (eg, workplace acquaintances, while I used to work). I have no idea what their beliefs and opinions are, nor do they have any idea of mine. The closest personal statement that we make to each other tends to be "happy holidays" :-).
I prefer company of people who have a congruent approach to their lives. Doesn't have to mean they ski or ride horses or such, but they are self aware and at least somewhat open.
Work is where I have met all my long term friends, and a couple of them from our college days. Not everyone at work, of course, and I no longer work with them, but the friendships have lasted all these years. Though several of those friends have died.
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