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I have continued to wear my wedding ring on my left hand and his ring on my right middle finger. They are symbols of memories and love. I don't care what others think. It only matters to me.
I’m positive that my wife will wear her rings after I’m gone and I would do the same. It’s all about the respect and the bond we have for one another
I think its odd that people even discuss it (about widows/widowers.)
People don't. It was just a wacky post by the OP. And even he apparently doesn't want to discuss it because he hasn't bothered to respond to any of the comments made to him.
Ordinarily, one might think that given the universal rejection of his point of view he might be too embarrassed to post any follow-up, but given some of his views on other topics (as delineated by his posting history), I doubt that is the reason.
I think they don't want people to know they are single, their not interested in any dating. Or they like the rings and just left them on. Or they can't get the ring off and just left it on.
There was a many pages thread here awhile ago, I forgot the title, where the great majority of widowed retired women don't want to remarry.
LOL. I am of retirement age, but not retired. However I AM single. Divorced long ago. I wear a ring on my left hand. Those who do not know me think is a wedding band (inset diamonds), but it is simply MY ring. Bought as a present to ME. I don't give a rat's patooty about whether or not someone thinks I am married.
You are so young, grasshopper.
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I lost my husband at 40 and didn't take off my rings for 2 years, AND wore his on a chain around my neck.
It was because in my heart I still felt married to him.
When my mom was 40, my dad passed away very unexpectedly, leaving behind an unsophisticated widow ill-prepared to be a head of household, my older high functioning autistic brother, my mentally retarded sister, and me.
Mom never remarried. Mom wore her wedding ring until she was in her 70s. I first noticed her not wearing it when she was in her 80s. She's coming up on 91 now. I've never spoken to her about it, but I know she keeps her ring, and my dad's ring, in her night stand.
When my mom was 40, my dad passed away very unexpectedly, leaving behind an unsophisticated widow ill-prepared to be a head of household, my older high functioning autistic brother, my mentally retarded sister, and me.
Mom never remarried. Mom wore her wedding ring until she was in her 70s. I first noticed her not wearing it when she was in her 80s. She's coming up on 91 now. I've never spoken to her about it, but I know she keeps her ring, and my dad's ring, in her night stand.
That had to be rough for her.
I remarried now and very grateful to have wonderful husband.
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My husband died a few years later, but he and his behavior effectively ended the marriage before. I wore my wedding ring because I was used to it. When I told him to make no contact, probably the last time I saw him, I just couldn't stand the stress of divorcing him. We were offically 'seperated'. I bought myself a ring I loved, not wedding/or engagementlike, and wore it in its place. It was silver, with a design symbolizing rebirth on it which was more about me, then and later. But I needed something on the finger.
I saved my rings, especially the engagement ring which was my mom's too, but when I went looking for them, they weren't there. I had gotten them out and looked at them, and probably forgot to put them back. But I didn't try to find them. I hoped Mom's ring showed up, but knew I had let him go. I wasn't done with the anger part of dealing with him, but knew all it was going to do was destroy me.
But if I happened to find them I'd keep Mom's but not the other. I have no pictures of him, or anything I saved. If anyone refers to the subject, I just say he died.
I have men friends, but except for one guy I met I'd STILL want to be with I'm not interested or looking. Friends, yes. More, no thanks. I'm one of those women who tend to have good friendships with guys, but not other females, and would love a few more friends.
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