[tuindecisive]

I've never had any issues here as a lesbian, and neither has my gf. That's not to say there aren't plenty of problems with homophobia in Oklahoma, but I feel comfortable here in almost all situations. In small towns when we aren't familiar with the locals, I sometimes feel a bit uneasy, but that might just be me. Gf doesn't feel that way anywhere. And, unless we're driving out of state, we're rarely in a small town anyway.

You won't find big gay neighborhoods (think Montrose in Houston), but there are a couple of gay bars/clubs in both OKC and Tulsa, drag shows at least monthly in both places, etc. For people who need more variety, sometimes they drive to Dallas - I haven't known anyone willing to go to Dallas for a party since college, though.

Norman has a decent gay population, and it is fairly common to see gay couples roaming around campus, or in museums, at bars, etc. Tulsa has more drag shows (eek, and don't bother with the Wreck Room unless you're a teenager with nothing better to do.), more cultural type events and what not. So...if you were to move here, I'd pick Tulsa or Norman

[Mom2My3]

I lived many years in Tulsa and worked in the Utica Square area. Utica, which is near downtown, is a beautiful area of Tulsa with many older homes. Lots of character. I know there is high gay population in that area. There are nice restaurants and a lot of unique shops. There is also a beautiful park in that area called Woodward Park....gorgeous gardens!! Many great companies in the area too.
Uitca Square is lovely upscale shopping. I worked at Saks Fifth Avenue with the nicest gay men! They were the best guys in the world. I think this is true of all the people who are attracted to the Utica Area. Very friendly with a bit of sophistocation. I think you would love it there.
I never observed any problems and only saw respect for gay people there. I think because the people of Tulsa see how productive the gay community has been in revitalizing the Utica, Cherry Street and Mid-Town areas. They have remodeled classic homes, opened business, and kept the economy going in that area of town.
Besides Eureka Springs, I would think Tulsa would be a great choice!!! Look at the job opportunities there too. Good luck!!

[melissajo]

I actually think there are several places in the midwest that gays could fit in just fine in the community. Obviously, Eureka Springs. No doubt about that one!

However, any moderate sized city would also have gay communities within it.
My mom's best friend is a lesbian. She has tons of gay friends. She lived many years in Wichita, KS. Then they moved to KC. They even lived in Johnson County, which is the more "pretentious" side of the KC metro. She fit in just fine there. I know even here in Joplin, we have many gay people in our community and for the most part, I never hear any one say anything about it. Sure there is always one token a**hole, but that is to be expected anywhere.

My mom's best friend lived 20 some years in KC, before taking off to Key West to live. She was perfectly happy there, only left for better weather

[bpiper]

it is not to be advertise that the place is gay friendly. so really and truely we don,t want to know that you are so keep it quite!

[Annemieke Roell]

Originally Posted by bpiper

it is not to be advertise that the place is gay friendly. so really and truely we don,t want to know that you are so keep it quite!

If I understand you correctly, you don't want it to be known that OK is gay friendly.

Any particular reason why not?

[firefrost]

I believe that there is small area in Fort Smith, Arkansas. I hear about it a bit, a bar called Kinkead's(sp?). They have drag shows and the like. I'd like to go sometime. Just for the show, I'm not a drinker. Other than that, not much I know of.

[_redbird_]

Originally Posted by bpiper

it is not to be advertise that the place is gay friendly. so really and truely we don,t want to know that you are so keep it quite!

http://i241.photobucket.com/albums/ff275/redbird4848/gaydar.jpg (broken link)

bpiper, stop playing hard to get, you are fabulous!

[Annemieke Roell]

Originally Posted by redbird4848

bpiper, stop playing hard to get, you are fabulous!

OK .... I just spewed my vodka tonic all over my screen. Not only is that bad for the puter ..... it is alcohol abuse.

roflmao

[karibear]

Originally Posted by Schousse

OK .... I just spewed my vodka tonic all over my screen. Not only is that bad for the puter ..... it is alcohol abuse.

roflmao

I really do think there should be a 'Beverage Alert' icon among those others. Some of the posters in the AK forum have claimed to have spare bits [ie, monitors and keyboards] so they can just switch to another while the first dries out.

Dunno that I'd call it alcohol abuse, but it certainly is a waste of good booze.

[colleeng47]

OMG, we have some life again! This is the first beverage on the keyboard in a loooonnnngggg time. Thanks, RB!