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Carrying mints is a good way to push people off. If you step back and they step forward, reach in your pocket and offer them a breath mint. Immediately they assume their breath is bad and they step back. LOL I usually just find a reason to excuse myself if they are just too close.
Hahaha! I love that. Don't know if I would have the guts to do it though. Hilarious!
Carrying mints is a good way to push people off. If you step back and they step forward, reach in your pocket and offer them a breath mint. Immediately they assume their breath is bad and they step back. LOL I usually just find a reason to excuse myself if they are just too close.
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Originally Posted by catsmom21
Hahaha! I love that. Don't know if I would have the guts to do it though. Hilarious!
What i hate because it hurts, is people who poke you when acknowledging your presence. i.e. a waitress in a restaurant where i was a regular, every time she came by, she said hi and poked my shoulder. i had a sore shoulder and it absolutely hurt. i knew she was being friendly so i let her do it a couple times, then when i saw that she was having the need to do this, i told her she hurt my arm, but she still kept doing it out of a habit.. i tried to steer clear of her section.
another time, this co-worker was being rude on purpose, so she passed by my desk and everytime, she'd knock on my desk. i was facing away from her and it startled me. so when i got fed up of her doing this, i asked her nicely to stop and she kept doing it. it seems she did it to annoy me. i didn't do anything to make her want to eff with me... so i did not get it. she quit and that was the end of that.
so my complaint is - when you tell people to stop and they dont stop. they either are doing it to annoy you on purpose or they are clueless as to how they are coming across.
What i hate because it hurts, is people who poke you when acknowledging your presence. i.e. a waitress in a restaurant where i was a regular, every time she came by, she said hi and poked my shoulder. i had a sore shoulder and it absolutely hurt. i knew she was being friendly so i let her do it a couple times, then when i saw that she was having the need to do this, i told her she hurt my arm, but she still kept doing it out of a habit.. i tried to steer clear of her section.
another time, this co-worker was being rude on purpose, so she passed by my desk and everytime, she'd knock on my desk. i was facing away from her and it startled me. so when i got fed up of her doing this, i asked her nicely to stop and she kept doing it. it seems she did it to annoy me. i didn't do anything to make her want to eff with me... so i did not get it. she quit and that was the end of that.
so my complaint is - when you tell people to stop and they dont stop. they either are doing it to annoy you on purpose or they are clueless as to how they are coming across.
I have encountered similar people in my working years. Sometimes I have had to repeat myself a number of times to make them understand that I am serious that I don't want to be: bopped on the head with a rolled up piece of paper, or be poked between the shoulder blades when I am approached from behind.
I can't imagine what makes people behave like this and when you ask them to stop often they are shocked to be spoken up to. In the case of the rolled up paper bopper she did stop but never spoke to me again and would actually take the trouble to stick her nose up in the air and toss her head when our paths crossed. That was much preferable and gave me a good chuckle.
The poker also took offense but tried to bravado it out by then acting all fake cowering and making a big annoying production when approaching my desk, to get my attention. That was also annoying and inappropriate, but as they weren't touching me I simply ignored the histrionics and went on with my work. When the posturing did not generate the desired effect, that was given up too, but even that took some time.
Why they couldn't simply approach me and say "excuse me Catsmom, could I ask you to look at this" like anyone else, I do not know.
I never really like being touched by strangers. Many years ago when I was a young pup I had an older female co-worker, sweet, intelligent woman whom I had much respect for, but she was the most touchy, feely person I have ever known. I eventually got used to it and now it really dosent bother me much.
Sometime now I will use my fingers and make an air box around me and say "personal space". I've been observing my dogs lately and when one gets in what another considers their personal space they give out a low growl. I'm considering trying that.
I don't mind it. The other day a female coworker put her arms through my arm that was at my side and put her head on my shoulder. What I don't like is peoples heads close to me talking inches from my face, I always gotta back up. If you're a guy and you're going on dates with a female you should be touchy and sitting next to them so they can smell you and not away from them like you're on an interview.
Since Covid, I don’t like being really near strangers, coworkers, etc.
I’m a guy, and being touched by other men is only on a shoulder and is so rare and is usually meant to be friendly so I don’t really care.
The dentist’s office kept assigning a gay dentist to me, and he would constantly be touching my arm (unrelated to doing any dental work, and while constantly commenting on my appearance). I asked that I be assigned to a new dentist.
When I started the thread I anticipated a Karen like response to hugs from close friends or simple handshakes. But the actions described in the opening post would me me uncomfortable as well, and I'm a hugger. If the house guest was informed and continued to do things like massage the neck well that's over the line. Being touched on the shoulder at a business function is as well IMO.
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