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Wedding of Husband’s nephew whose father (DH’s brother) passed away 20 years ago. We’ve seen nephew maybe 3 times in the past 20 years.
Nephew is in his 30’s and it will be marriage to longtime live in GF. They already own a house. Both highly paid professionals. No registry, (so they want cash.) We will fly from Nevada to FL and rent an Airbnb. We will rent a car. Wedding is in an “upscale” barn with a country theme. Day after there is a brunch for family.
We have no idea of what amount of cash to give. We can afford to give; but we have two other similar weddings coming up (stepdaughter’s child and cousin’s child) so we want to kind of do similar gifts for all.
I say $500 is more than generous, my DH thinks $1K.
We recently gave my niece $500 who is similarly situated. I was more interested in keeping things "fair" with what I gave her older three siblings and adjusted for inflation. I don't necessarily consider this gift as "more than generous" as when my daughter got married a couple of relatives did give them more.
These were all local so no travel and some more upscale than others.
I think gift amounts vary regionally.
Last edited by Maddie104; 01-17-2024 at 11:50 AM..
Rule of thumb, if you can swing it - is: Give at least what your plate at the reception cost him. Typical is $100-125 per plate, esp. if you're a drinker. But you can check out the venue online yourself - maybe it's a $25 /plate buffet and BYOB, or maybe it's $250 / plate white glove...
Naysayers would say that your travel costs are enough - and if your nephew were gracious, he'd give you that "out" right now. Or in your invite. But guess that ship has sailed...so your travel costs shall not figure into it. That was your choice (not his) to go.
$500 is ...well, no words for that. Unless your family (er, his) and all his friends are entirely wealthy - that's an absolutely out of touch amount. With apologies.
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Not rich but not poor - the last wedding I gave $100 - the cost of the 2 dinners. If they have a home and good jobs - they don't need it - your attendance should be more than enough.
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