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A friend got married last year. In with the wedding invitation was a little card stating that the bride and groom were registered with a honeymoon registry. In other words, we don't want gifts, we want you to help pay for our honeymoon. The registry contained things like massages, strawberries & champagne, excursions from the resort, specialty dinners, and various dollar amounts to contribute towards their lodging.
I thought including this with the wedding invitation was beyond tacky, but since the bride is a friend, I went along with it and got them one of the lowest price choices. I'm not made of money and would have preferred to get them just a little something like towels or a blender (first marriage for both and they are young), but whatever I got them the champagne.
Last week I got yet another notice of a honeymoon registry. This one came with a "save the date" card (at least it wasn't with the invite). I went to the registry site and the only things on there are really expensive excursions, or the option to just chip in for the cost of the honeymoon lodging/transportation in $25 increments.
How is this any different than flat out asking for cash? Am I the only one who finds this really tacky?
When I was going to get married, we registered for a few things at Target & Kohls, and only told people that if we were asked. We never included that information on any invite or announcement. Would we have preferred cash , sure we would, but I would have never in a million years dreamed of actually asking people for that.
A friend got married last year. In with the wedding invitation was a little card stating that the bride and groom were registered with a honeymoon registry. In other words, we don't want gifts, we want you to help pay for our honeymoon. The registry contained things like massages, strawberries & champagne, excursions from the resort, specialty dinners, and various dollar amounts to contribute towards their lodging.
Eh, as long as there are various amounts... It's not like you'll go without some gift anyway.
You could've gotten them A strawberry to share! What?! It's romantic!
A friend got married last year. In with the wedding invitation was a little card stating that the bride and groom were registered with a honeymoon registry. In other words, we don't want gifts, we want you to help pay for our honeymoon. The registry contained things like massages, strawberries & champagne, excursions from the resort, specialty dinners, and various dollar amounts to contribute towards their lodging.
I thought including this with the wedding invitation was beyond tacky, but since the bride is a friend, I went along with it and got them one of the lowest price choices. I'm not made of money and would have preferred to get them just a little something like towels or a blender (first marriage for both and they are young), but whatever I got them the champagne.
Last week I got yet another notice of a honeymoon registry. This one came with a "save the date" card (at least it wasn't with the invite). I went to the registry site and the only things on there are really expensive excursions, or the option to just chip in for the cost of the honeymoon lodging/transportation in $25 increments.
How is this any different than flat out asking for cash? Am I the only one who finds this really tacky?
When I was going to get married, we registered for a few things at Target & Kohls, and only told people that if we were asked. We never included that information on any invite or announcement. Would we have preferred cash , sure we would, but I would have never in a million years dreamed of actually asking people for that.
This is extremely tacky. I have never even heard of this trend! I guarantee when I go to weddings they get a gift from the registry and that's IT. Anything beyond that -- drinks with umbrellas in them, spa treatments on the honeymoon is their problem. Bon Voyage! LOL.
I do think it's a little tacky. A lady I used to work with got married a couple years ago. They did the honeymoon registry too, can't remember what I paid for now. However, I do know they did not use everything that was purchased for them. This ex co-worker of mine comes off as a greedy person anyway so I wasn't too surprised. But like Sierra said, you'll buy something for the couple anyway.
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I wouldn't do it but I wouldn't mind if others did. At least I'd know that what I was getting them was wanted and appreciated. Who knows how many toasters and such get doube-gifted, returned, donated to the thrift stores.... Might as well give them something that will be special and memorable to them.
I do think it's a little tacky. A lady I used to work with got married a couple years ago. They did the honeymoon registry too, can't remember what I paid for now. However, I do know they did not use everything that was purchased for them. This ex co-worker of mine comes off as a greedy person anyway so I wasn't too surprised. But like Sierra said, you'll buy something for the couple anyway.
Well, it doesn't really matter if it's called a wedding or honeymoon registry. I'm not a fan of the original one, either, but as long as not all the options are outrageously expensive, it's something you put up with...
I wouldn't do it but I wouldn't mind if others did. At least I'd know that what I was getting them was wanted and appreciated. Who knows how many toasters and such get doube-gifted, returned, donated to the thrift stores.... Might as well give them something that will be special and memorable to them.
I used to prefer to buy a gift, but you're right... you don't know what they need or like, so I switched to checks.
Right--and I meant people get egotistical about the gifts they give--with an attitude like, You'll get what I give you and you'll like it! LOL
It's not 'egotistical.' If you're giving a gift to someone off of a list THEY created then that's good enough. People don't have to go all out for a wedding when buying gifts. You do what you can, I would be happy with that effort if it were me.
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The registry contained things like massages, strawberries & champagne, excursions from the resort, specialty dinners, and various dollar amounts to contribute towards their lodging.
I got them the champagne.
, sure we would, but I would have never in a million years dreamed of actually asking people for that. 
This is extremely tacky. I have never even heard of this trend! I guarantee when I go to weddings they get a gift from the registry and that's IT. Anything beyond that -- drinks with umbrellas in them, spa treatments on the honeymoon is their problem. Bon Voyage! LOL.
