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Your gift is just being there. I don't think anyone should ever feel obligated to bring a gift.
However, I actually prefer a registry as I know that I will give a gift that is appreciated.
And I do like the tacky custom of the dollar dances with the bride and groom. That's a great way to give cash when you can't afford anything on the registry.
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A friend got married last year. In with the wedding invitation was a little card stating that the bride and groom were registered with a honeymoon registry. In other words, we don't want gifts, we want you to help pay for our honeymoon. The registry contained things like massages, strawberries & champagne, excursions from the resort, specialty dinners, and various dollar amounts to contribute towards their lodging.
I have never received an invitation that mentions stuff like this, tho ofc some couples use money gifts to help pay for the honeymoon or a house or the wedding, if they can’t afford it. It is a little tacky & weird they listed it…but, IMO, it’s more tacky to discuss the tackiness of your friend.
I've never heard of a honeymoon registry. IMO, I do think it's a bit tacky because I don't think it's right to ask people to help pay for the honeymoon. If a couple wants to go somewhere pricey for their honeymoon, that's their business. A bridal registry is different because they're asking for items to start their home and lives together. Then again, I don't even know about that anymore since a lot of couples are already living together and have what they need. I've seen bridal registries with personal items, which I thought were tacky. I guess times have changed, huh?
But it's OK to ask people to pay for your dishes, towels, drinking glasses, picture frames, etc? I don't really see the difference. It's like...either it's OK to ask people to buy you stuff...or it isn't.
Seems like the most popular option for those choosing to get married these days. Certainly true in the major metropolitan areas like New York. Don't know about rural parts.
Since most people I know give cash, makes it easy to give a gift.
This must be a new trend that I am not aware of. I usually buy the wedding shower gift off of a registry because I know what I buy is something the couple wants and it makes it easy for me. As for the actual wedding day I will give money as a gift. I will also give what I can afford.
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The registry contained things like massages, strawberries & champagne, excursions from the resort, specialty dinners, and various dollar amounts to contribute towards their lodging.
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Seems like the most popular option for those choosing to get married these days. Certainly true in the major metropolitan areas like New York. Don't know about rural parts.
ITA. I’ve seen House, Honeymoon, Cash & AirBnB Funds. Nothing wrong or unusual about it IMO. BUT, I’ve never seen massages, specialty dinners or stuff like strawberries & champagne listed on the registry. I can see why some ppl would think that part is tacky. I do. Ha…pardon my pun!
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Your gift is just being there. I don't think anyone should ever feel obligated to bring a gift.
ITA you shouldn’t feel obligated…but, I don’t know why anybody would want to go to the wedding but not give a gift. It doesn’t have to be expensive. It can be a card with a heartfelt note & a promise to share a bottle of wine or a dessert some time soon to celebrate the lovely couple. You can also go in on a group gift with other ppl who have a similar budget as you. Anything that shows a little thought & care IMO.
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The registry contained things like massages, strawberries & champagne, excursions from the resort, specialty dinners, and various dollar amounts to contribute towards their lodging.
