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Old 04-18-2024, 04:56 PM
 
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If an obituary names a surviving daughter this way:

Survived by daughter Joan (Bob Warren) what % do we assume for:
a. Bob as the husband or
b. Bob only as a domestic partner of Joan.

No I can't ask Joan only looking for the proper etiquette when spouses are named in an obituary.
Thanks.
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Old 04-18-2024, 05:14 PM
 
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If an obituary names a surviving daughter this way:

Survived by daughter Joan (Bob Warren) what % do we assume for:
a. Bob as the husband or
b. Bob only as a domestic partner of Joan.

No I can't ask Joan only looking for the proper etiquette when spouses are named in an obituary.
Thanks.
Does it matter? Could be either one.
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Old 04-18-2024, 05:16 PM
 
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Does it matter? Could be either one.
It could if no one knew the couple were married.
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Old 04-18-2024, 05:27 PM
 
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If an obituary names a surviving daughter this way:

Survived by daughter Joan (Bob Warren) what % do we assume for:
a. Bob as the husband or
b. Bob only as a domestic partner of Joan.
My take is that Joan and Bob are a couple. Beyond that, I assume nothing.
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Old 04-18-2024, 05:48 PM
 
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Curious, I checked a couple of "obituary etiquette guides". A domestic partner could be referred to as a spouse in an obituary even though the relationship wasn't a formally recognized marriage. So, the term "spouse" doesn't really distinguish. Someone who was in a long term committed relationship could also be referred to as a significant other, a partner, a companion. Up to the obit author's/family's preference.

https://everloved.com/articles/obitu...lended-family/
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Old 04-18-2024, 06:13 PM
 
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If an obituary names a surviving daughter this way:

Survived by daughter Joan (Bob Warren) what % do we assume for:
a. Bob as the husband or
b. Bob only as a domestic partner of Joan.

No I can't ask Joan only looking for the proper etiquette when spouses are named in an obituary.
Thanks.
Does it matter? No matter how the official relationship between father/mother was - there is an orphan or a partial orphan.

What do you mean by "only" domestic partner? Loving, caring, sharing does not require a ring but it can require a lot of commitment. Actually with some folks still attaching the stigma of only and all sorts of legal problems - even more. Nice to have a 401k but you are an only. Nice of you to have taken care of our father/mother for years but now it is time to get out of the house as you are an only.
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Old 04-18-2024, 07:36 PM
 
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I’d guess married, but established couples often get the same treatment.
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Old 04-18-2024, 07:38 PM
 
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Does it matter? No matter how the official relationship between father/mother was - there is an orphan or a partial orphan.

What do you mean by "only" domestic partner? Loving, caring, sharing does not require a ring but it can require a lot of commitment. Actually with some folks still attaching the stigma of only and all sorts of legal problems - even more. Nice to have a 401k but you are an only. Nice of you to have taken care of our father/mother for years but now it is time to get out of the house as you are an only.
So...marry?
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Old 04-18-2024, 07:45 PM
 
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So...marry?
That may seem easy to some - ex relationships, non US spouses, ... can you please go on?
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Old 04-19-2024, 02:59 AM
 
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I assume it means marriage, they generally do that in obituaries (add the first and last name of the spouse in parentheses) when the surname has been changed through marriage.
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