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My wife and I are separating and she is moving to her parents house
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I’m stupid?
If you're stupid, it's only because you are here asking if she cheated when she is already moving out. Lawyer up and move on with your life. Your marriage is over, as it should be if everything you said is true.
I was going on this, but I agree this marriage is long over:
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Originally Posted by PabloPicachu
My wife and I are separating and she is moving to her parents house, despite me begging her not to...I’m crying and begging her to stay...For me, it’s a solemn event. I’m sad.
She drinks too much, gets defensive before you question her about anything, seems happy to be moving out...has she changed her appearance? Is she working out more? Dressing differently or buying new clothes? Has she changed her hair? These are also things to be looking out for. There is always a change somewhere when a person is having an affair.
No amount of begging will make someone stay who wants to leave. Did she take the kids or leave them with you? Like someone else said, time to lawyer-up. Even if its to get one on retainer in the event she files or you need to take custody in an emergency situation. Divorce is ugly. Be prepared.
Nothing in your post bodes well for your marriage. If she's acting happy and excited to get away from you instead of compassionate and remorseful then I'd say you should go ahead file anyway, even if she doesn't. It sucks but at least you got a couple kids out of it so just make sure moving forward that you are the best father you can be!!
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Originally Posted by PabloPicachu
She’s pretty much like, “if you don’t trust me there’s no reason to be together.” So I can’t even ask her if she’s been unfaithful. When I alluded to it, she was mortified, angry and argumentative.
It depends on how often you're asking. Asking turns into accusing real quick if it happens often. If this is the first time in your relationship that you've asked then I see no need for her being defensive.
Does it really matter if she's cheating or not? She's unhappy with you and that is enough to end it. Regardless of how many guys she bangs or doesn't bang.
Yeah, I don't think it matters if she's cheated/cheating. She willingly moved out with you, the best revenge is to live your life and ignore her as much as you can at this point and try and find someone else.
You may be in a "no fault" state as well so hiring a PI would only serve to satisfy your curiosity and not necessarily benefit you in divorce proceedings, need to look into that first before spending that kind of money.
I can guarantee one thing - if she is, in fact, cheating......her phone is all the evidence you'll need. Get your hands on that somehow and that will have all the clues you need. Good luck and sorry for all the angry/bitter responses here.
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