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I took the test and my scores were below average but I wasn't surprised. Growing up wasn’t a pleasant experience for me. I hated my father who had a short temper and I couldn't stand to be in the same room with him.
I still remember standing at the kitchen sink. Maybe eleven years old and my father smacking me from behind. I had no idea what I did wrong. I remember the first time he beat me with his belt. I was... maybe five?
My father passed away three decades ago but today I understand why he was so angry. His father and brothers didn't respect him. So, he yelled or hit whenever he felt slighted. I then took my fear/frustration out on my younger brother who in time turned against me. And my sister moved out right after graduating high school. We were a family at war but kept the ugly details hidden from others.
Today my siblings and I look good on paper. We're all reasonably successful but each one of us is damaged goods so to speak.
My wife on the other hand was raised in a healthy family. Lots of easy laughter between my wife, her sister and their parents.
I was the fourth child, and mom told me many times that I was an accident. Mom was the sixth and unwanted. Grandmother's abusive excuse of a husband told her that he would "fill her arms" to stop her from going out to work. He wanted to look like ultimate provider. He drank most most of his pay.