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Originally Posted by hautemomma
I'd be interested in hearing the experiences of those who've lost siblings. Yes, grief is universal, but the grief of surviving siblings seems overshadowed by those who've lost children, spouses and parents. I think sibling grief is somewhat unique phenomenon and process unto itself, and it's hard to connect with a community of individuals who've experienced this, even within grief support groups. I lost my brother who was only 2 1/2 years older than me very recently, and I'd like to be in touch with some people who know what this type of loss is like, even as an adult. I'd also like to gather a sense of what my future may look like, in terms of this process, my changed identity and so on.
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I am the youngest of four boys -- 20 years younger than the oldest, who died in 2005 of a freak cancer, age 66.
With that much of an age difference, that bro was a little more like a kindly uncle than a brother.
The survivors are 10 and 15 years older and predictably, I'm closest to youngest of one and I'm sure that will be a very different experience when he passes ... although I have made a point of late to spend an hour or so on the phone with him every Sunday afternoon ... I hope not to have any regrets there. Last Sunday I remoted into his computer and helped him set up a new backup drive -- so I do some practical things for him too, though we're 1,000 miles apart. He's 77 but in very poor health. Paradoxically, that he's at least a weekly part of my life now will leave more of a void when he goes, though.
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