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If the person is no longer employed, that's obvious. "You still here" makes it sound like the person is inadequate and that he is surprised that they are not already terminated.
I'm not certain I understand his comment. Is he meaning that she shouldn't be working there because she's terrible at her job and should have been fired already?
Or she's so good at her job that she should have been snatched up by a competitor weeks ago. :-)
In any event, it's meaningless office talk and should be ignored with a smile and a shrug.
I work in a large (200+) technology division for a F500 company. A man in a different department, foreign born and never the best with English, who has been here as an engineer (not manager) for about five years, has a habit of making inappropriate comments to others in the division.
A few months ago he asked a female in my department "what are you still doing here" when she was walking through the lobby to start work. Just today, I heard him ask a senior developer "you still here" as a question, in the elevator.
Both times it was upsetting to the person asked -- in the case of the woman on my team I had to deal with it as an "issue" (internally, not HR). How do I gently approach this dude to let him know that these sorts of questions are out-of-bounds -- he needs to keep his focus on his team, not the status of workers in the rest of the division.
I'm constantly saying the wrong thing to people in person or don't have much to say at all, which is always awkward.
I'm honestly surprised at being able to hold a job for more than a week because of it, and happens because of my extremely isolated upbringing. This has not improved at all with age despite trying hard to learn what socializing is all about. Perhaps this worker is the same.
If the person is no longer employed, that's obvious. "You still here" makes it sound like the person is inadequate and that he is surprised that they are not already terminated.
Or sounds like the person has too much going for them to still be there.
If this is what the real world work place looks like I'm pretty sure I'd never survive. What a bunch of sissies if they can't handle a question as innocuous as "What are you still doing here?".
I've had a boss tell me he'd "F'ing rape my face" if we screwed up something for his department like we did in someone else's. Of course I also threw a chair across the room and told him to "Say some *&^* like that again and see what happens". Several years later we still work together and actually have a pretty good working relationship with mutual respect for one another and never needed to get HR involved.
If this is what the real world work place looks like I'm pretty sure I'd never survive. What a bunch of sissies if they can't handle a question as innocuous as "What are you still doing here?".
I've had a boss tell me he'd "F'ing rape my face" if we screwed up something for his department like we did in someone else's. Of course I also threw a chair across the room and told him to "Say some *&^* like that again and see what happens". Several years later we still work together and actually have a pretty good working relationship with mutual respect for one another and never needed to get HR involved.
Wow. If I threw a chair across a room in front of other people or even dared lifting a finger in self-defense, I'd be arrested.
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