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My friend seemed advise from her supervisor about a coworker who was treating her disrespectful and the supervisor told this coworker who complained about her. Of course she denied it. I would think a boss would bring it up in a more diplomatic way and say there have been some issues bought to my attention but not give any names.
I've had situations in the past where my boss said he would speak to the person but would not bring up who told him. That is the more professional thing to do. You create more problems when you start saying "So-and-so said..."
I've had situations in the past where my boss said he would speak to the person but would not bring up who told him. That is the more professional thing to do. You create more problems when you start saying "So-and-so said..."
Not professional at all and very unethical. The supervisor should get both in the room together and get the statement from both parties at the same time instead of trying to play detective. This would lead to more consistent results and ensures the truth is heard. If you speak to someone behind the back of the offended party then there's no telling what story they will make up without knowing/facing who created the allegation. I think the OP's supervisor handled it just fine.
Well she offered to bring the coworker into the room to get to the bottom of it but then she's would have still just denied it and they would have ganged up on my friend.
My friend seemed advise from her supervisor about a coworker who was treating her disrespectful and the supervisor told this coworker who complained about her. Of course she denied it. I would think a boss would bring it up in a more diplomatic way and say there have been some issues bought to my attention but not give any names.
The co worker isn't an idiot...she knew who went to the boss and why; of course she denied it. Your 'friend' either needs to get thicker skin or stand up for herself. Running to the boss every time someone 'disrespects' her is a waste of time.
When we have these issues we tell them to work it out amongst themselves, like adults, and only involve management if they can't deal with it on their own. Sometimes they do and sometimes we have to have a sit down with all parties present.
I have my own children at home to parent, I don't need to parent my employees.
Well she offered to bring the coworker into the room to get to the bottom of it but then she's would have still just denied it and they would have ganged up on my friend.
Who's they? Was there more than one person being disrespectful to your friend?
Your friend should've asked for a sit down....that way it's all out on the table and the boss is there to lay out behavioral expectations. (we do this and document it carefully for both parties...if the offender continues, then we take to corrective action, but your friend also needs to choose her battles carefully)
Well I've had the same problem with a coworker and haven't said anything. My friend did it because she knew her coworker was purposely undermining her. I told her not to say anything because the boss will always side with the one being accused of something. That's how it always is....especially if they are a minority. Which she is.
Your 'friend' either needs to get thicker skin or stand up for herself. Running to the boss every time someone 'disrespects' her is a waste of time.
When we have these issues we tell them to work it out amongst themselves, like adults, and only involve management if they can't deal with it on their own.
This
We get treated disrespectfully now and then.
It's life.
Get over it.
You can't give others the power to ruin your day.
The boss was out of line but so too was your friend. They need to get all parties in a room, talk it out and lay out a plan of action. From there if someone varies from that then the boss needs to be involved again. I had to do this once and it ultimately resulted in the other person being fired but he was a disrespectful jerk to everyone, I was just the only person to talk to him about it head on.
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