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I work in IT and I have 2 bosses. I report to one of them and other manages everything else. However only the boss I report to can fire me or can decide what work should be assigned to me. The other boss joined our team about 6-7 months ago. I am an asian woman 30+ years in age.
This 2nd boss and I were talking about work related stuff today and couple of my co-workers were around when he told me "you are a kid". He himself seems to be between 35-40 years. I didn't like it and I told him not to call me a kid. He just said sorry and laughed loud on it. I cannot even tell this to my main boss as I know that's where all this has started from. My main boss and couple of other guys in the team make fun of all team members. That happens in their meetings where both of my bosses and these guys are in, every week. I know since I had to attend that meeting couple of times and I have also seen them making fun of other team members when they are not around or sometimes even if they are present. I know they make fun of me too. But I felt like calling someone 'kid' at work was very unprofessional and I feel bad about it.
Calling someone a kid at work is demeaning and unprofessional, regardless of the person's age, gender, or race. It sounds like you're involved with an unprofessional group of men who don't know how to speak to coworkers.
gosh, I'd be complimented to be called a younger human, as I am usually referred to as the Ole lady ....
Guess its all about perception and inter-spection.
I often called one of my co workers sen sei ...since he was a guru of wisdom and years of experience. He called me Little grasshopper....since I had so much to learn.
we had that open rapport of regard.....guess sometimes folks really do shoot the messenger....
I'm glad you told him you didn't like it. If he does it again, I'd just keep a firm tone of voice when you tell him not to call you that anymore, it's unprofessional. It's childish to talk about colleagues like that. Sorry you're experiencing it.
I'm glad you told him you didn't like it. If he does it again, I'd just keep a firm tone of voice when you tell him not to call you that anymore, it's unprofessional. It's childish to talk about colleagues like that. Sorry you're experiencing it.
Once should be more than enough.
There's no reason why she should have to remind him again.
That makes her look weak, and it shows that he doesn't care about her warning or her feelings, and he'll continue to do it.
If he does it again, then she needs to take it to a higher up.
I work in IT and I have 2 bosses. I report to one of them and other manages everything else. However only the boss I report to can fire me or can decide what work should be assigned to me. The other boss joined our team about 6-7 months ago. I am an asian woman 30+ years in age.
This 2nd boss and I were talking about work related stuff today and couple of my co-workers were around when he told me "you are a kid". He himself seems to be between 35-40 years. I didn't like it and I told him not to call me a kid. He just said sorry and laughed loud on it. I cannot even tell this to my main boss as I know that's where all this has started from. My main boss and couple of other guys in the team make fun of all team members. That happens in their meetings where both of my bosses and these guys are in, every week. I know since I had to attend that meeting couple of times and I have also seen them making fun of other team members when they are not around or sometimes even if they are present. I know they make fun of me too. But I felt like calling someone 'kid' at work was very unprofessional and I feel bad about it.
No, but I'm 41. Nobody calls me "kid."
I've been in IT for 19 years (I'm female) and have been called other things, though.
Calling someone a kid at work is demeaning and unprofessional, regardless of the person's age, gender, or race. It sounds like you're involved with an unprofessional group of men who don't know how to speak to coworkers.
It really depends on the context. Are people being called kid in a demeaning way or are they being called kid in a friendly manner?
At my office, everybody gets called everything.
Do we really want our work place to be sterile and humorless?
Some work cultures I've worked in, people josh around and use all sorts of terms for each other. Some are more professional in tone. Either way, if someone indicates that they don't like a particular term, it should cease.
I was in a horrible work environment a couple of years ago, and my supervisor regularly called me and my teammate "kids" and "kiddo". We were in our late 40s, supervisor was in her early 50s, so we were all the same age group. It was absolutely used to demean us, given other things that went on. From another person in another place it could have been a term of affiliation or a gentle jibe that we were younger, and it would have been all in fun. Depends on context.
It really depends on the context. Are people being called kid in a demeaning way or are they being called kid in a friendly manner?
At my office, everybody gets called everything.
Do we really want our work place to be sterile and humorless?
I agree - that and while I understand the OP's point of view... if it is meant demeaning.. the person using it has issues and the OP should just hold her head up high and rise above it.
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