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I would NOT tell. It would worry me that Helen wants HR to know. Why should Helen care if HR knows? I don't think Helen is your friend --at least in this situation. For all you know, she made up the asperger grand-kid thing to get information from you.
If push came to shove I would deny telling Helen anything. I would simply say I had no idea what she was talking about, but perhaps she's having hearing or some other type of age-related problems.
I wouldn't go that far. I would simply say that you have a controlled condition and you would appreciate it that Helen would not discuss it further.
With Lanza and Roger, people who have Aspergers already have a difficult hill to climb. Disclosing it especially when your traits are mild and controlled at best would create an awkward work situation.
As an HR manager, Barbara probably wouldn't want to know about your condition as long as it's not affecting your job performance. Even then, she only needs to know what accommodations you would need to do your job properly - not your diagnosis.
Helen may mean well, but she sounds like a pot-stirrer.
As an HR manager, Barbara probably wouldn't want to know about your condition as long as it's not affecting your job performance. Even then, she only needs to know what accommodations you would need to do your job properly - not your diagnosis.
Helen may mean well, but she sounds like a pot-stirrer.
Pretty much this. Again, if there is no issues with performance or anything like that, this is no need to disclose. Helen, as an older worker, may have concerns, perhaps even a maternal instinct, but if you think you're fine, there's no need to get into it at work. Again, there's also a stigma attached to the Autism spectrum that people who don't understand it may get... nervous.
As an HR manager, Barbara probably wouldn't want to know about your condition as long as it's not affecting your job performance. Even then, she only needs to know what accommodations you would need to do your job properly - not your diagnosis.
Helen may mean well, but she sounds like a pot-stirrer.
this^^^. Say nothing to HR. Tell Helen that your therapist has said it will not interfere with your job performance so there is no need to alert HR. Ask Helen not to mention it to anyone (fingers crossed) and in the future, keep your private affairs private.
I'm not saying there is anything to be ashamed of, but people have a tendency to look for trouble when it comes to anything mental health related, especially when they don't understand the condition.
I would tell Helen that I want this to remain in confidence and thanks for the suggestion, but there is no need for HR to know anything about me since it doesn't interfere with my job performance.
I'm trying to understand why Helen feels the need to instruct you to inform anyone at your job of your condition. What's the end game for her? I would absolutely not tell anyone at work because it's not their business. She guessed only because she's aware of the condition. But it's not for her to decide who you should tell.
Keep the information to yourself, keep doing an awesome job at work, and I would also limit what you reveal to Helen in the future as she may appear to have your best interests at heart, I doubt she does.
Your diagnosis is not anyone's business unless it starts to affect your job performance. As mentioned above, tell Helen that you have spoken with your doctor and s/he sees no reason to tell HR because your condition does not affect your performance. I would also tell her that you expect her to keep your confidence in this matter.
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