Manager wants to talk to me tomorrow. I'm scared. (degree, work, resume)
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Hopefully OP got some sleep? My 2 cents, if manager tends toward being a knob/unpolished then fear the worst. But if mgr is pretty smooth, then assume best.
a.) you're being let go
b.) you're not being let go
c.) you're being let go, but she is telling you about full time opportunities there that aren't in her department and that she may put a word in.
a.) you're being let go
b.) you're not being let go
c.) you're being let go, but she is telling you about full time opportunities there that aren't in her department and that she may put a word in.
WTF? The manager schedules a meeting and is instantly the worst human alive? Consultants get let go and people usually give notice of meetings. Those are both facts.
There's nothing hostile about it. It's just business.
The manager didn't do anything *wrong* per se. But at the same time, why are they being to secretive about what's going to be discussed and leaving the OP in the lurch? As the OP shows, it can lead to what may end up being unnecessary stress.
Or as someone else aptly put it, they are being a doorknob.
Last edited by 313Weather; 06-05-2014 at 07:53 AM..
The manager didn't do anything *wrong* per say. But at the same time, why are they being to secretive about what's going to be discussed and leaving the OP in the lurch? As the OP shows, it can lead to what may end up being unnecessary stress.
You can say that again. She started talking to me through our instant message system near the end of yesterday:
"How are you? I just wanted to give you a heads-up."
"I'm well! How are you?"
"Great, thanks."
"What's the news?"
Then she signed offline. After not signing on for an hour, I assumed she went home for the day. It was time for me to go home as well. I shot her a quick email:
"Hi, [her name]. You wanted to give me a heads-up about something, but we never got to talking about it. I'll be in tomorrow by 9 a.m., or you can email me whenever is convenient is for you."
She emailed me back:
"Ok I'll talk to you tomorrow."
How is a guy not supposed to feel stressed after that??? If it wasn't a big deal, she would've just emailed me back about it. T-minus 2 hours until I find out ....
Personally, I don't think it was cool for your coworker to tell you their good news when they were supposed to keep it a secret. When I received my raise at my previous job, the Manager told me to keep it a secret as not all of my colleagues would be receiving one. So I kept my mouth shut. It's called respect.
I believe that is the true cause to your panic attacks- you are nervous that there can only be 1 piece of good news given and that you will be the one to receive the bad news. I would just sit tight and wait to hear the news (whatever it may be).
Try to stay busy so it will take your mind off of it!
Personally, I don't think it was cool for your coworker to tell you their good news when they were supposed to keep it a secret. When I received my raise at my previous job, the Manager told me to keep it a secret as not all of my colleagues would be receiving one. So I kept my mouth shut. It's called respect.
You can say that again. She started talking to me through our instant message system near the end of yesterday:
"How are you? I just wanted to give you a heads-up."
"I'm well! How are you?"
"Great, thanks."
"What's the news?"
Then she signed offline. After not signing on for an hour, I assumed she went home for the day. It was time for me to go home as well. I shot her a quick email:
"Hi, [her name]. You wanted to give me a heads-up about something, but we never got to talking about it. I'll be in tomorrow by 9 a.m., or you can email me whenever is convenient is for you."
She emailed me back:
"Ok I'll talk to you tomorrow."
How is a guy not supposed to feel stressed after that??? If it wasn't a big deal, she would've just emailed me back about it. T-minus 2 hours until I find out ....
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then fear the worst. But if mgr is pretty smooth, then assume best.
