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I recently started a new job, after quiting the last one because my boss was harassing me.
I now find myself a little uncomfortable working too closely with a male boss. For my current job, I was told that I was only going to assist the head of the department who-thankfully - is a woman, but since I started, it looks like I will also work closely with a few other male senior staff, which makes me uncomfortable. I haven't met them all yet-just a few-but have been told by this lady I'm replacing, that they are all married; but that didn't stop my last boss.
Unfortunaly I find myself -probably- misinterpreting the way they look at me.
I am expected to work with all of them and always be smiling and nice.
How would you guys suggest that I work with everyone without looking nervous and making it uncomfortable for all?
Last edited by Flamboyante; 03-12-2014 at 04:57 PM..
I would suggest you not base your judgement on someone else especially since you have not even met them.
There are men who are married who actually want to be married and are in love with and faithful to their wives.
The discomfort is of your own making at this point.
I'm sorry, but I have to comment on this. Speaking as a gay male, sometimes I'm scared to death of interacting with females at the work place. Be nice to them and the next thing you know they think you're hitting on them. Give them a smile and it's now sexual harassment.
Right now, my office is all males. I'm hoping it will stay this way. And I'm one of the bosses you speak of. We're suppose to get a batch of interns soon. Hopefully, they won't send a female our way. Our corporate office downtown have female bosses. That place should be better for them.
I'm sorry, but I have to comment on this. Speaking as a gay male, sometimes I'm scared to death of interacting with females at the work place. Be nice to them and the next thing you know they think you're hitting on them. Give them a smile and it's now sexual harassment.
Right now, my office is all males. I'm hoping it will stay this way.
I'm fairly certain that you're hitting on me right now.
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If you aren't willing to work with men, well, I'm not sure what to tell you. Even all women's health gyms generally have some male staff. Perhaps counseling is in order as this really is a problem you have to get past.
I would suggest you not base your judgement on someone else especially since you have not even met them.
There are men who are married who actually want to be married and are in love with and faithful to their wives.
The discomfort is of your own making at this point.
Actually the older they are, the more comfortable I feel and it's not ALL MEN. I get this feeling by the way the person looks at me.
I've met two of them and I don't like the way one has been looking at me. He's actually very nice, but I just don't like to be stared at.
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Originally Posted by rosie_hair
I'm sorry, but I have to comment on this. Speaking as a gay male, sometimes I'm scared to death of interacting with females at the work place. Be nice to them and the next thing you know they think you're hitting on them. Give them a smile and it's now sexual harassment.
Right now, my office is all males. I'm hoping it will stay this way. And I'm one of the bosses you speak of. We're suppose to get a batch of interns soon. Hopefully, they won't send a female our way. Our corporate office downtown have female bosses. That place should be better for them.
You do realize that sexual harassment is more than just interacting with or being nice to someone, right?
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Originally Posted by timberline742
If you aren't willing to work with men, well, I'm not sure what to tell you. Even all women's health gyms generally have some male staff. Perhaps counseling is in order as this really is a problem you have to get past.
Never said I'm not willing to work with men. You may want to read the title of the thread again.
I recently started a new job, after quiting the last one because my boss was harassing me.
I now find myself a little uncomfortable working too closely with a male boss. For my current job, I was told that I was only going to assist the head of the department who-thankfully - is a woman, but since I started, it looks like I will also work closely with a few other male senior staff, which makes me uncomfortable. I haven't met them all yet-just a few-but have been told by this lady I'm replacing, that they are all married; but that didn't stop my last boss.
Unfortunaly I find myself -probably- misinterpreting the way they look at me.
I am expected to work with all of them and always be smiling and nice.
How would you guys suggest that I work with everyone without looking nervous and making it uncomfortable for all?
Perhaps they are looking at you because you're "looking nervous and making everyone uncomfortable"?
I'd suggest that you start expecting professional conducts from everyone starting with yourself and go from there.
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