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I'm super thrilled to be getting married in the fall of next year. I am starting to get into the whole DIY and planning thing, and it's turning out to be a blast. But I got this message from one of my mom's friends the other day on Facebook. She first congratulated me, and then she said.
"I told your mom to make sure you send me an invite."
I was a little taken aback. She's a good friend of my moms, but I haven't seen or spoken to her in 10-15 years. It came off a little bit like a demand, and when I mentioned to my mom that I thought it was rude, she said I was selfish, and that this wedding wasn't all about me.
Am I missing something? I always thought it was rude to ask about your invite to someone else's party. You don't know what their budget is, and you may put them in an awkward position by asking. But I'm willing to admit if I was wrong. What do you all think?
Since it was on FB and you can't hear tone, it may have been demanding, or it may have been a more enthusiastic "can't wait to see you get married!" tone.
I think it was presumptuous of her to mention it at all. However, the parents may have friends they want to include, it's not just friends of the bride and groom, so that may need to be taken into consideration when planning your day. Good luck!
Since it was on FB and you can't hear tone, it may have been demanding, or it may have been a more enthusiastic "can't wait to see you get married!" tone.
I think it was presumptuous of her to mention it at all. However, the parents may have friends they want to include, it's not just friends of the bride and groom, so that may need to be taken into consideration when planning your day. Good luck!
I agree, I think presumptuous is a good word. And I understand my parents have friends that they'd like to include, which is fine, but, it definitely took me aback a little.
I also have had a few acquaintances do the same in person, and it's so awkward because again, it's like a demand for an invitation, and I find it very off-putting. Why do people assume they will be invite if they're not close friends or family?
Repeat after me: "The marriage is ours and ours alone to keep, but the wedding is for Family and Friends."
Don't sweat the small stuff. Whoever this lady is, she thinks enough of you and your mom that she wants to be there on your special day.
The stress and strain of a wedding is makes it hard enough for the bride and groom to enjoy it. If you obsess over controlling every aspect of it you'll crack up.
I agree, I think presumptuous is a good word. And I understand my parents have friends that they'd like to include, which is fine, but, it definitely took me aback a little.
I also have had a few acquaintances do the same in person, and it's so awkward because again, it's like a demand for an invitation, and I find it very off-putting. Why do people assume they will be invite if they're not close friends or family?
I think some people simply like weddings, and because they know you, or used to be closer to you, they want/expect to be included.
I worked with a girl whose guest list was closing in on 600 people (an Italian/Portuguese wedding) and her mother was inviting kids she went to Kindergarten with but hadn't seen in years.
I think some people simply like weddings, and because they know you, or used to be closer to you, they want/expect to be included.
I worked with a girl whose guest list was closing in on 600 people (an Italian/Portuguese wedding) and her mother was inviting kids she went to Kindergarten with but hadn't seen in years.
600?! What the heck was the budget! We're like at 130ish. Geez!
600?! What the heck was the budget! We're like at 130ish. Geez!
I'm not sure what the final tall was. Certain ethnicities, at least around here, tend to be over-the-top, but the gifts received are usually such that the whole wedding ends up paid for, and then some.
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