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Its not a plot, its a niche, for the ashes. a plot is for the body. The niche is like a little PO box, with name, dates, etc. I don't want my kids to have to carry the ashes around with them, or figure out when/where to dispose of them. Its a final detail I don't want them burdened with. Also, well, that's just what we want done with our remains. I highly doubt anyone will come to "visit" us, but if they do, they have a nice place to visit!
What would it mean to you if your ashes were not put in this 'niche'? How would not saving your ashes in a public space feel to you while awaiting?
What is your goal by buying little niches marking that you once lived? Does it mean that you did not matter while you were alive if there is nothing marking your death after you're gone?
Does it feel like you are not important unless you mark your territory?
just curious about the above. You don't need to answer, but they are universal questions.
It seems that you want to feel that your lives had meaning because there is a public little niche similar to a PO box that makes it known that you once lived on earth. And that you do not want to be forgotten so you want to mark some territory. But reality is that you are just one of billions of other people who came before you and will come after you.
Somehow it feels like a matter of respect to you?
Last edited by matisse12; 11-07-2017 at 03:57 PM..
I was thinking more along the lines of William Wordsworth, not Elvis Presley.
"Our birth is but a sleep and a forgetting;
The Soul that rises with us, our life’s Star,
Hath had elsewhere its setting
And cometh from afar;
Not in entire forgetfulness,
And not in utter nakedness,
But trailing clouds of glory do we come
From God, who is our home:
Heaven lies about us in our infancy!"
What would it mean to you if your ashes were not put in this 'niche'?<>
Does it feel like you are not important unless you mark your territory?<>
But reality is that you are just one of billions of other people who came before you and will come after you.<>
That's how we ended up with monuments like Stonehenge and the Pyramids of Egypt, and all the cemeteries around here.
"what is mankind that you are mindful of them, human beings that you care for them?"
If there is no marker then there is maybe no memory of us even to Him?
It is possibly the most common question since we discovered we are conscious of ourselves.
OP's answer is they want the niche and visits from the kids.
OP's answer is they want the niche and visits from the kids.
The OP said that she does not expect anyone to visit nor be visiting the niche where the ashes dwell.
Since cremation has become so prevalent which is a breaking away from the traditional embalmed body with casket in the funeral business, I'm wondering if there will or should be an equal breaking away from the traditional marking of a body/grave for eternity in a public place for everyone. And if cremation doesn't make the idea of a public marker of the body/grave out-dated. As in one sense, the idea of a public marker of the body/grave for some has been superseded by a spreading of ashes in nature or a keeping of the ashes at home.
Just asking the questions out of curiosity and discussion.
Last edited by matisse12; 11-07-2017 at 04:29 PM..
<>Since cremation has become so prevalent which is a strong breaking away from the traditional embalmed body with casket, I'm wondering if there will or should be an equal breaking away from the traditional marking of a body/grave for eternity in a public place for everyone.<>
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Ceramics and glassware are artifacts we still find from thousands of years ago.
MaryleeII, take care of the arrangements when you can afford to and leave written instructions.
For me, I want to be planted. I have really appreciated the opportunity to visit my great and great-great grandparents graves here in Idaho, (a different part of the state from where I now live). For genealogical research purposes, I'd like to have a headstone wherever my earthly body resides.
The OP said that she does not expect anyone to visit nor be visiting the niche where the ashes dwell.
Since cremation has become so prevalent which is a breaking away from the traditional embalmed body with casket in the funeral business, I'm wondering if there will or should be an equal breaking away from the traditional marking of a body/grave for eternity in a public place for everyone. And if cremation doesn't make the idea of a public marker of the body/grave out-dated. As in one sense, the idea of a public marker of the body/grave for some has been superseded by a spreading of ashes in nature or a keeping of the ashes at home.
Just asking the questions out of curiosity and discussion.
Doesn't sound like you have a sense of history. Cemeteries are fascinating. If it is the town you may have lived in for decades walking about will rekindle old memories when you see the names of people you have forgotten. Years from now an old classmate or boyfriend may see the ashes and remember the years gone by. Then there is genealogy and cemetery databases used by family not yet born.
Buy them now. Do what you want not what others think you should do.
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