How often is too often... (married, guy, love, children)
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I think that really depends on the couple. If you're in synch in your relationship, no amount will seem like too much or too little. If one wants to move ahead and the other doesn't, then the one who wants to further things will feel like not enough discussion is getting done, and the other will think that it's too much.
I go with my feelings, if it feels right, talk about it. If I'm about to make a major life decision, then I bring it up immiediately because IF he's thinking about a future with me, the decision might effec his life. At the very least it will factor into whether or not he wants to continue to see me.
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If you're doing it b'c there's issues that you need to discuss it's fine but if you're doing it for reassurance b'c you feel insecure or something, it gets old fast.
The future is exciting to me. Some days I talk about it more than others, some days I just need to think. If your partner is on board with you, he/she will go with the flow.
It depends how long you've been together, I think.
In the early days, it's probably counter productive.
We've been together 3 years now, and are looking at getting married, and emigrating to Norway, so we talk about it quite a lot, but that's just because of the stage we're at.
We're making plans for the move first, so we're looking at houses, jobs, and transport, then we'll begin to plan the wedding once we're settled.
It's a new challenge, and we're both excited about it, so, needless to say, it's quite often enthused about !!
Once that's done, we may need to look at it again if we decide on children, but, apart from that, I think when it's working fine, there's no real need.
If problems arise, we tend to deal with them when they do, but that's pretty rare.
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