If you were this guys wife, I bet you would be MAD that he was talking like that too me.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by endersshadow

Maybe if you women didn't tell us 50 things at once, we could process something!

Poor things can't listen when the 2nd thing they're doing happens to be even eating. Some focus you have!

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by endersshadow

Maybe if you women didn't tell us 50 things at once, we could process something!

I'd be ecstatic if you would just process one at a time!!

[temptation001]

Originally Posted by Jane72

Based on what you describe, I feel kind of sorry for the guy.
His actions are pathetic.
If I were his wife, I'd be less *mad* than embarrassed for him, and concerned about his mental and emotional health and well-being.

But yes, it is awkward and uncomfortable when one's on-line candor inadverently attracts unsolicited and unwanted sexual attention from a member of the opposite sex. I had to leave a forum once because a male member got the wrong idea about me somehow and was basically sexually harrassing me via PM.
I'm convinced it wasn't my fault. Although I am willing to speak openly on a number of personal subjects, I never gave the impression that I was available, or that I would be receptive to such attentions from a stranger on the internet.

I'm sure the same applies in your case.
You tried to be open and honest, and some desperate male forum member mistook this for an invitation to sexually harrass you.
It's not your fault. Sometimes women say one thing, men hear another.
It is embarrassing, annoying, and frustrating.

Lindsey, its good that you write threads such as this one stating your position with married men. This man who said he was following all of your threads, must of read only a few because he missed the ones where you had previously said how you felt about married men.

Looking at some of your posts, I can see why a man would think you might say yeah if he has a huge penis. So its always good to clarify your position so these men don't think you will have sex with just anyone who has a very large penis. (You have stated in other threads you desire men who are very well endowed.)

Forget this guy and move on. If he is unhappily married , he probably does this type of thing a lot. Don't get worked up over something that you already stopped in its tracks.

[oregonwana_b]

Hmm.....
Most gentleman that I have seen on here are pretty respectfull of their wives
and mention their wives quite often on here. Infact a lot of thier posts are questions regarding their SO behaviour or something....
I even know one male poster who is so repectful of a new girlfriend that he mentions her periodially. Aside from these men that have SO making sexual statements about women in general, I haven't seen any disrespect to their wives. But I guess you never know what goes on in DM's.
You're doing the right thing LM, by exposing at least their actions (words) if the not the person.

[Currency Pair Crocodile]

Originally Posted by Lindsey_Mcfarren

For several months now I have had a comfortable back and forth with a male member on here. More or less casual conversation but some of a sexual nature, some referring to posts I have made etc.

By the way he spoke to me it was my assumption that he was single. Stupid me. My posts which he seems to follow closely make it clear how I feel about married men who flirt with other women, sleep with other women etc.

This man after reading the penis size thread even wrote me to tell me how big he was, would it be enough for me and too bad we didn't meet 15 years ago. Thats of course when I asked "15 years ago, why?" and he told me that he was married.

Personally I never thought much of it, I was not into the guy, it was just someone interesting to talk to however I should imagine his wife would feel differently if she knew the things he was saying to another woman on the internet.

It truly makes me SICK to have unknowingly participated in this. I would copy and paste his posts here to teach him a lesson but I suspect the mods would not appreciate that.

My take on marriage is that you should never do something when your spouse isn't around that you can't do when they are.

Evidently I have more respect for his marriage then he does.

Hey Lindsey, you could have humoured him more. Say, ask him take that magnifying lens away and then calibrate King Leonidas of Scrota

[WestCobb]

I understand your feelings, but the penis thread was active quite awhile ago. If you knew he was married since then, why the big reveal and attempt to shame him now? Did you and he just recently have a spat?

[Huckleberry3911948]

dear OP i read your profile. i am glad i did--- you seem a very together person. having said that, i am not sure why the offense after having a familiar conversation with a man on CDF re your OP. would you have felt ok about having such a converation with a perfect stranger if he were single?
btw i know national city well you are indeed a long way from home.

[NC~Mom]

I can't see why there is any surprise about this!
Of course not all men are this way...but there are a lot of them out there!
I'm not shocked.

[Lindsey_Mcfarren]

Originally Posted by WestCobb

I understand your feelings, but the penis thread was active quite awhile ago. If you knew he was married since then, why the big reveal and attempt to shame him now? Did you and he just recently have a spat?

I started this thread within minutes of receiving the information he was married. There was no lag time at all.

AND really if he is not ashamed all on his own then thats his problem. This is more of a warning to never speak with me again or I will report him to the MODS. I looked back at some of the messages he sent me. He started out just friendly and slowly moved into more suggestive things. I never clean out my messages so it was interesting to see how over time he became emboldened enough to make direct sexual comments.

I feel sorry for his wife.

[WestCobb]

Sorry for the insinuation, Lindsey.. I just remember that penis thread being active awhile ago. Again, my apologies.