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A person who disagrees to help me out or to express their own view is fine. Although, I have every right to disagree with anybody's opinion of me or of their opinion of what I do. It doesn't mean I will assume they are tearing me down though, unless I'm sensing something negative in their body language or tone. Also tact is important if you want to keep relationships going. I think you get the idea now.
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Maybe you're confusing someone disagreeing with you as tearing you down. It seems to be an epidemic these days. Disagreeing is not synonymous with hate, or bashing or belittling....
What is with these type of folks that bring you up with compliments and then later do or say something to tear you down? Then they keep that cycle up throughout your friendship or work relationship.
Is that some psychological way to destroy somebody's self worth or confidence?
It must be my bad luck because in the past I've met circles of people that do that, including professionals.
Sounds to me that you need to get away from these type of folks. There are those that thrive on hurtinmg others.
I don't know any person who enjoys being around rude and manipulative people, unless they are rude and manipulative people themselves, and then they too tend to get very defensive and sensitive. So ..... therefore I don't get your point. I also would not consider myself "very sensitive."
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Artsy, it seems you are very sensitive & take many things as a personal affront. So many people are rude to you, insulting you, playing mind games, etc. I'm sure your feelings are legitimate, but you have to wonder if you're not taking it more to heart than necessary.
It's really not worth your energy to get your feathers ruffled over it, and it's frustrating to try and analyze something that is likely irrational anyway.
Sometimes it's better just to ignore it & not give it any significance, or give people the benefit of the doubt that they didn't mean it in the way you're taking it.
Didn't you just say that what I was seeing was just people simply "disagreeing" with me??? I'm sorry but your comments really are contradictory and unsympathetic.
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I don't think it's a woman thing. I see men do it too. I think a lot of people are just really mean spirited nowadays.
What is with these type of folks that bring you up with compliments and then later do or say something to tear you down? Then they keep that cycle up throughout your friendship or work relationship....
Maybe they're just being honest. They see something about you that deserves a compliment, so they give praise. The next day they see something they disapprove of, so they criticize. Just like I do with many posters on CD -- I may strongly agree with some of their opinions and strongly disagree with others. I'm that way with your posts. It's not my intension to "bring you up" nor "tear you down", but only give credit when it's due and another point of view when I disagree.
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Didn't you just say that what I was seeing was just people simply "disagreeing" with me??? I'm sorry but your comments really are contradictory and unsympathetic.
That doesn't negate the fact that it isn't a woman thing and some people are just mean spirited. Just because, as I said, you MAY--MAYBE, I said, reread it--be confusing it with that, doesn't mean that's the answer for every situation. Stop emotional thinking. Or don't. I don't care.
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Wake up!
Love you, dems, but you do think with your emotions. 
