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Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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It's been over 12 years since I left my husband of 19 years and when I dream of my current b'f, it's my ex. I wouldn't go back to him if he were the richest guy on earth and I'm certainly not pining for him. Far from it. So I wish I could exorcise him from my dreams once and for all. Does this happen to anyone else?
You know, I had a girlfriend that I absolutely adored in college. I mean, I just knew she was the one. She and I could talk for hours about deep and profound things, and we were rarely apart. This woman was like a drug.
Then, the week after my father died, she broke things off with me, mainly because there was another guy. Boy, talk about lousy timing. However, I said all the gracious and gentlemanly things, wished her well, and got on with my life and mending my broken heart. A year later, she was married to the guy. Heck, she even invited me to the wedding.
So, five years later, I get a call from her, as in the HeyImintownandthoughtaboutlookingyouup kind of call. So, despite myself, I got excited and met her for lunch. Well, she did look splendid. But as we started talking with her, I realized that a lot of what I thought was emotional depth was really facile stuff cribbed from self-help books. She was prattling on about silly things like her ongoing girls trips, blah blah blah. Never mentioned her husband.
When I brought up her marriage, she said, "Well, that's not going so well," to which she gave me a long spiel about how it wasn't what she thought it would be, blahblahblah. To which I said, "So you're testing the waters here today." She thought for a second, and said, "Yes."
I just skirted the subject, for I had learned what I needed to know. Paid for lunch, gave her a goodbye hug, and didn't return her calls. After that lunch, I thought to myself, "Wow. There but for the grace of God go I. What was I thinking?" A few short months later, I met my wife.
I believe perhaps you and your ex may have some times when you are very close together in the past which causes you to have some deep memories in your heart.
These thoughts in our hearts are normally due to having a deep impression of a person, and also especially happens when one is feeling emptiness or loneliness in the heart.
One "Tricky funny thing" about thoughts/our mind. As much as we may try not to think about certain things, we end up thinking about it even more and wondering if we are fine or if we are crazy (to some people).
But the Truth is that we think such ways are due to we are humans.
No matter what, I would like to share with you, sometimes it is good to face your fear/worries or forget/trash the past and face the future.
You may like to meet up with your ex, and perhaps after meeting up with him, your impression of him might be different.
Take it easy, if he keeps appearing in your mind, perhaps you may just like to have him out for a cup of tea.
Well...I couldn't really give you much suggestion or advise as I do not totally understand your situation. What I share above are just my experience and opinions.
However, I would very much suggest that perhaps you would like to share with someone you could trust (preferably family members whom you are close to), or a professional counselor.
Above all, I wish you all the best in your life and would like to assure you that you are perfectly fine, and remember, you are never alone.
Cheers.
Sincerely Yours,
lovemakingtipsexclusive
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Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Cpg, LOL good story but did you take a wrong turn or am I missing the point? Is this about the guy from my past who isn't my ex? I was being facetious. Kind of. Just saying, if I were to pine for anyone, it most certainly wouldn't be my ex husband. It was 19 years of hell on earth.
Cpg, LOL good story but did you take a wrong turn or am I missing the point? Is this about the guy from my past who isn't my ex? I was being facetious. Kind of. Just saying, if I were to pine for anyone, it most certainly wouldn't be my ex husband. It was 19 years of hell on earth.
I understood loud and clear. But if you're still dreaming about him, then it's pretty obvious that there's still some lingering emotional connection, some latent sense of regret. And if you want to exorcise him, sometimes it's the true realization that he wasn't worth a minute of your time that does it.
I believe perhaps you and your ex may have some times when you are very close together in the past which causes you to have some deep memories in your heart.
These thoughts in our hearts are normally due to having a deep impression of a person, and also especially happens when one is feeling emptiness or loneliness in the heart.
One "Tricky funny thing" about thoughts/our mind. As much as we may try not to think about certain things, we end up thinking about it even more and wondering if we are fine or if we are crazy (to some people).
But the Truth is that we think such ways are due to we are humans.
No matter what, I would like to share with you, sometimes it is good to face your fear/worries or forget/trash the past and face the future.
You may like to meet up with your ex, and perhaps after meeting up with him, your impression of him might be different.
Take it easy, if he keeps appearing in your mind, perhaps you may just like to have him out for a cup of tea.
Well...I couldn't really give you much suggestion or advise as I do not totally understand your situation. What I share above are just my experience and opinions.
However, I would very much suggest that perhaps you would like to share with someone you could trust (preferably family members whom you are close to), or a professional counselor.
Above all, I wish you all the best in your life and would like to assure you that you are perfectly fine, and remember, you are never alone.
Cheers.
Sincerely Yours,
lovemakingtipsexclusive
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