I'm a (27M) and I believe I'm being breadcrumbed/emotionally manipulated by my ex (F25)

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by zentropa

What is your plan for coparenting this child that you chose to bring into the world and will be part of your lives until you die?

Any thoughts about that?

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OP, here's what you said at the beginning of last month:

I told her how it is today, I'm done with it all. Her games, her demands, me running around after her. Done.

Just going to focus on myself and my daughter and any time she tries to butt in, I'll laugh at her, because I'm sick of the way she treats me and how she holds onto the past version of me.

And yet now, after describing more of her attempts to jerk you around and create drama, you say:

My mind is curious more than anything

It should have been crystal clear to you in her recent communications, that she's back to her old tricks, but no, you had to ask her if she's saying she misses you out of sincerity, or in reaction to seeing that you're in a new relationship, and suddenly wanting to hook you back in with her and manipulate you. As if you weren't sure. What were you expecting: that she confess to being a manipulative narcissist and enjoying trying to provoke you with her "boo hoo, I miss you!" act? And to wanting to break up your happiness?

What happened to being done with her games? Being "done with it all"? What happened to that clarity you were displaying 6 weeks ago? Where did that "I'm done with her nonsense" guy go?

[pathrunner]

I can understand his submissions on this thread because it's about how she seems to be jerking him around, but I agree it's an excellent point and needed to be said. Time to focus on co-parenting, especially since he's got his love life under control and he has let her know to essentially back off.

[clevergirl67]

Originally Posted by RideOrCry

Last few days she's been very chatty, I've been replying quite dry to keep my distance.

You should have not responded at all unless it was specifically about your child.

Originally Posted by RideOrCry

Today she called me

You should not have answered, instead you should have texted, "Is this about our child?" and left it at that.

Originally Posted by RideOrCry

The message

Never should have written or answered the phone again.

She is a manipulative tw@t. Period.

Stop the insanity. They can only drive you crazy if you hand them the keys.