being blunt in a relationship (dating, lesbian, how to, marriage)
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Am I the only one who cant stand when a girl expects me to know what she is thinking or wants? Or to know when she is upset or mad about something with out telling me? I prefer she just bluntly tell me not make me guess or worry.I prefer blunt women who just tells me if she is upset or tells me if i'm being dumb or annoying.
I was with a female for 2 years. She started out as my roomie, then when she realized I was on a dating moratorium, she told me I should try dating a female for a change to see if maybe I should give up on men completely.
The relationship should have only lasted a week (because it was that bad)...but I couldn't seem to get rid of her, no matter how blunt I was with her.
She expected me to know what she wanted, without telling me...but I could care less, unless she wanted to tell me. I'm not going to guess...what a waste of time.
She always told me that she wanted the blunt truth, but that was a LIE! She never wanted the truth. She wanted to hear what she wanted to hear it, as if it was some perfectly scripted play, but nobody ever gave me my lines (and I would have improvised anyhow). If I said the actual truth, the blubbering, sobbing, non-stop "discussing" of our relationship "issues" went on forever....when the only issue was that I wasn't a lesbian, I didn't want her, I didn't really like her since she wouldn't shut up ever about how to fix the relationship I didn't want,..and in these "discussions" I told her all of it.
She'd sulk, get angry, pout, cry randomly...and I'd suggest, that because she was obviously miserable, she should really find someone to make her happy.
And after sex, there was a whole lot of not shutting the F up. Nobody made ME a sandwich except ME and that was only to escape the talking, the non-stop sappy, romantic, ILOVEYOUSOMUCH stuff when I just wanted to sleep.
I was blunt with her. I didn't love her, nor was I attracted to her, I couldn't really say I was a lesbian because the whole sex part was extremely boring, she'd talk of marriage and having kids and I'd think 'Oh please GOD NO!'. I told her exactly how I felt on all accounts, but she still wouldn't leave. Eventually, she cheated and I was a happy, happy girl. I paid her share of the lease upfront, releasing her from all obligations and waved her goodbye to grand ol' Montana.
I even look back on it somewhat fondly now. I have a great perspective on what some guys have to put up with and I learned that if I was a guy...and I had to put up with dating the female gender (as much as I love them platonically AS a female), I'd be gay. Choice, biological, I don't care...I'd choose to be gay. I'd be the most fabulously gay man that ever pranced the earth.
Last edited by Jenna1343; 12-21-2014 at 06:36 AM..
I was with a female for 2 years. She started out as my roomie, then when she realized I was on a dating moratorium, she told me I should try dating a female for a change to see if maybe I should give up on men completely.
The relationship should have only lasted a week (because it was that bad)...but I couldn't seem to get rid of her, no matter how blunt I was with her.
She expected me to know what she wanted, without telling me...but I could care less, unless she wanted to tell me. I'm not going to guess...what a waste of time.
She always told me that she wanted the blunt truth, but that was a LIE! She never wanted the truth. She wanted to hear what she wanted to hear it, as if it was some perfectly scripted play, but nobody ever gave me my lines (and I wouldn't improvised anyhow). If I said the actual truth, the blubbering, sobbing, non-stop "discussing" of our relationship "issues" went on forever....when the only issue was that I wasn't a lesbian, I didn't want her, I didn't really like her since she wouldn't shut up ever about how to fix the relationship I didn't want,..and in these "discussions" I told her all of it.
She'd sulk, get angry, pout, cry randomly...and I'd suggest, that because she was obviously miserable, she should really find someone to make her happy.
And after sex, there was a whole lot of not shutting the F up. Nobody made ME a sandwich except ME and that was only to escape the talking, the non-stop sappy, romantic, ILOVEYOUSOMUCH stuff when I just wanted to sleep.
I was blunt with her. I didn't love her, nor was I attracted to her, I couldn't really say I was a lesbian because the whole sex part was extremely boring, she'd talk of marriage and having kids and I'd think 'Oh please GOD NO!'. I told her exactly how I felt on all accounts, but she still wouldn't leave. Eventually, she cheated and I was a happy, happy girl. I paid her share of the lease upfront, releasing her from all obligations and waved her goodbye to grand ol' Montana.
I even look back on it somewhat fondly now. I have a great perspective on what some guys have to put up with and I learned that if I was a guy...and I had to put up with dating the female gender (as much as I love them platonically AS a female), I'd be gay. Choice, biological, I don't care...I'd choose to be gay. I'd be the most fabulously gay man that ever pranced the earth.
Seeing this typed from a woman.....well......it nearly brought tears to my eyes.
She expected me to know what she wanted, without telling me...but I could care less, unless she wanted to tell me. I'm not going to guess...what a waste of time.
She always told me that she wanted the blunt truth, but that was a LIE! She never wanted the truth. She wanted to hear what she wanted to hear it, as if it was some perfectly scripted play, but nobody ever gave me my lines (and I would have improvised anyhow).
She'd sulk, get angry, pout, cry randomly...and I'd suggest, that because she was obviously miserable, she should really find someone to make her happy.
Exactly. Beating around the bush in relationships is the worst thing a man can do. As a man you must always take the strong route. Say what needs to be said and stick with your word.
Consistency is the key.
No decent woman wants to be with a man that compromises and folds at every opportunity.
If she cannot handle what you have to say...then it's best to just send her on her way to a guy that will give her what she needs.
Depending on what it is...I'm pretty blunt and straight forward.
If I feel the matter is selfish and stupid...I won't say anything but try to get over it on my own. I don't like to complain because it pushes people away.
I have been told I have no tact and can be insensitive because I say what I feel when someone asks my opinion. I'm not the type to play games with people. If I feel something should be said...I say it.
Am I the only one who cant stand when a girl expects me to know what she is thinking or wants? Or to know when she is upset or mad about something with out telling me? I prefer she just bluntly tell me not make me guess or worry.I prefer blunt women who just tells me if she is upset or tells me if i'm being dumb or annoying.
Honesty is the best policy, like you I hate guessing
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