Dating advice for AA woman? (boyfriend, girlfriends, women, love)
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Hi all,
I'm hoping that y'all could shed some light or offer some advice. I'm a 20 year old university student attending a predominantly white (80%+ white) university.
Well, I'm 20 and I've never had a boyfriend. In highschool I was not interested in boys at all. Well, at this point in my life I'd love to start dating. I'm not going to say what university I go to or where, because it doesn't matter.
The student body is largely homogenous, and there's a certain type of girl the guys here love. That type of course would be tall, thin, blonde and tan. Ha, none of which I fit. I'm biracial, brown hair, short and petite. As an African American female I realize the disadvantage(s) I have in the dating scene, especially in a largely homogenous area such as the one I live in and go to school in.
I hate to rag on online dating but I really don't want to do it. And all of my girlfriends are white as well, so it wouldn't benefit me to express interest in dating since they really only know white guys ha.
I would really prefer another university student.
I don't know whether I should volunteer, take a job outside of the area or what. I know Tinder is really popular among college aged students (aka my friends lol)
Help and/or advice? What should I do to even begin dating? where to start? sorry for being so vague
Are you isolated in a small college town? Don't not be open to white guys, but definitely avoid the ones who don't live in a diverse place or big city. I'm saying look off-campus to the nearest men in a diverse city. It may mean a commute. Yes, it sucks, but it's well worth it.
Leave those country boys alone. Nothing good can come from that. And plus what are you going to do, go 4-wheeling with them?
Are you isolated in a small college town? Don't not be open to white guys, but definitely avoid the ones who don't live in a diverse place or big city. I'm saying look off-campus to the nearest men in a diverse city. It may mean a commute. Yes, it sucks, but it's well worth it.
Leave those country boys alone. Nothing good can come from that. And plus what are you going to do, go 4-wheeling with them?
I live in a city though haha!
These people are not country AT ALL. The student body, regardless of race, tend to come from at least middle class backgrounds.
I only know a handful of people who are maybe lower class and on full scholarship (it's an expensive private school).
It's not that I'm not open to white guys, but I realize most white guys have no interest in black girls whatsoever. I think as a black woman I can't really afford to be picky or have preferences. So i'm open minded. And since I've never dated I don't have a type or know exactly what I'm looking for.
It's not that I'm not open to white guys, but I realize most white guys have no interest in black girls whatsoever. I think as a black woman I can't really afford to be picky or have preferences. So i'm open minded. And since I've never dated I don't have a type or know exactly what I'm looking for.
First off, get some self-esteem. You can be picky and you should definitely have preferences. But if you really feel like you need to take whatever comes your way, go anywhere where black guys are and you'll find one.
Hi all,
I'm hoping that y'all could shed some light or offer some advice. I'm a 20 year old university student attending a predominantly white (80%+ white) university.
Well, I'm 20 and I've never had a boyfriend. In highschool I was not interested in boys at all. Well, at this point in my life I'd love to start dating. I'm not going to say what university I go to or where, because it doesn't matter.
The student body is largely homogenous, and there's a certain type of girl the guys here love. That type of course would be tall, thin, blonde and tan. Ha, none of which I fit. I'm biracial, brown hair, short and petite. As an African American female I realize the disadvantage(s) I have in the dating scene, especially in a largely homogenous area such as the one I live in and go to school in.
I hate to rag on online dating but I really don't want to do it. And all of my girlfriends are white as well, so it wouldn't benefit me to express interest in dating since they really only know white guys ha.
I would really prefer another university student.
I don't know whether I should volunteer, take a job outside of the area or what. I know Tinder is really popular among college aged students (aka my friends lol)
Help and/or advice? What should I do to even begin dating? where to start? sorry for being so vague
Oh geez. By the thread title I thought you were in Alcoholics Anonymous.
Don't be so desperate for a mate. Find hobbies and activities that interest you, and participate in them regularly. In other words, get a life. And I mean that in a good way. Once you do that, and get yourself focused on what you do have rather than what you don't have, you'll be far more appealing to everyone around you, including the men. Good luck!
I don't know whether I should volunteer, take a job outside of the area or what. I know Tinder is really popular among college aged students (aka my friends lol)
tinder is for hookups and vanity
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Originally Posted by coffeendonuts
It's not that I'm not open to white guys, but I realize most white guys have no interest in black girls whatsoever.
i wouldn't say that, necessarily. people generally don't like to date too far outside their culture , so i think it depends on whether or not you live up to 'black stereotypes.'
Don't not be open to white guys, but definitely avoid the ones who don't live in a diverse place or big city. I'm saying look off-campus to the nearest men in a diverse city. It may mean a commute. Yes, it sucks, but it's well worth it.
Leave those country boys alone. Nothing good can come from that. And plus what are you going to do, go 4-wheeling with them?
IMO this is just bizarre advice .. i can't make sense of it at all.
i wouldn't say that, necessarily. people generally don't like to date too far outside their culture , so i think it depends on whether or not you live up to 'black stereotypes.'
I didn't know a black person and a white person who were born in the country had different "culture".
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